Post # 1
so i had a fight a few weeks ago with a bridemaid because she said she couldn’t come to my bachelorette party, and she said she got the day off work and would be able to make it, i was so excited that she could come! my party was saturday, and i saw her the week before and she was acting a little weird. i called her 3 times friday(morning, noon and night), and messaged her, then called her 4 times saturday(3 times in the morning and once in the afternoon), and messaged her. at around 8 on sat she said her invite said friday, and she was working now(she said that she had to work til 7, but at 8 said she was still at work?). she didn’t appologize or anything. she said that since no one called her she didn’t know. i even called her boyfriend to check up on her. really? what the hell, she can’t even take responsibilty? i’m wondering if she’ll even show up to the wedding, i spent hindreds of dollars so that she could be one of my maids, and i’m afraid to call her cause i don’t think i have anything nice to say…
Post # 3
Yikes! Well I guess I would call her and make sure she knows the DAY, date, and time of your wedding! It’s this coming weekend, so hopefully she doesn’t flake. Try not to sound angry when you call, just sound concerned. I know that would be hard though since she flaked…good luck!
Post # 4
MightySapphire – i called last weekend and confirmed all the days and times with her! that’s the worst part, i saw her on monday and told her i can’t wait til sat… who knows, my party was perfect when only two people showed up, and my wedding will be too!!
Post # 5
It doesn’t quite add up for me. Is she always flaky? It seems like she was trying to avoid something. But was it really that she couldn’t go to the party? Is she having money troubles? A controlling bf who wouldn’t let her go? Did she have a fight with the MOH? Maybe there was a spat in planning the event, and it cost more than she can afford?
I guess I could go on, but it just seems kind of a goofy way of acting if she didn’t want to or couldn’t go.
Maybe try clamly talking to her and asking her if there is something going on. Good luck.
Post # 6
wow Brittanymichelle im sorry you are going through this with one of your maids, try abd put your anger aside and talk with her. If she continues to act this way I would suggests having a backup plan. I hope she doesn’t show for the wedding and not be that inconsiderate. Best of luck.
Post # 7
Ah, she sounds difficult! I’d keep trying to speak to her, if you can’t reach her, leave messages saying what you want to say. I really hope she doesn’t no show to the wedding!
Post # 8
Tanya123 – she has made herself super available when ever possible up until the past month or so. her excuses just aren’t adding up to me either. i hadn’t heard of any fights and her bf has always been cool, and i can’t get an answer from her if everything is okay
Ms. Syditty – i’ve been trying to get ahold of her, asking her what’s going on, if everything is okay? no answer… don’t really know what to do now, besides go to her house like a stalker to check on her…
Post # 9
ooh, and to top it off, my fh is PISSED at her now!!
Post # 10
seriously? i finally got a hold of her and she has an excuse for everything, no sorry or my bad. just excuse after excuse!
me- everything okay?
me- hey, what’s going on? everything okay?
her- ya, i just woke up. my phone’s messed up so ya know i can’t talk on it. bf dropped it in a cup of soup
me- nice! so you got friday afternoon and sat off this weekend? you missed out on a great time!
her- i’ll check the schedule tomorrow. i know i was pissed but my invite said friday sp i switched my schedule and they wouldn’t let me leave.
me- sucks your phone doesn’t work cause i called like 3 times on friday and 4 times sat. i even texted you bf when i couldn’t get ahold of you
her- my bf worked all day weeked. and i had my phone taken apart drying out so i wasn’t on
but really, her phone rang, so that means it was on, we all know that. and who cares so much about a wedding their in that they won’t know(or care to know) if they have the day off until 3 days before? WTF?!
Post # 11
Do you think she is jealous because you are getting married? I have been in bridal parties where some bridesmaids think it should be all about them. I don’t get that!
Post # 12
Oh my goodness, is your Bridesmaid or Best Man best friends with my Maid/Matron of Honor, because the sound like the exact same person! My Maid/Matron of Honor has been super flaky about EVERYTHING. Quite frankly I was surprised she even got it together enough to buy a plane ticket for my wedding. But same deal, you make plans with her, then she doesn’t answer her phone, texts, emails, facebook, whatever. It’s truly infuriating. Since you said she was super available to you before, I think you just need to call her on her behavior. I already tried the “concerned friend” approach with my Maid/Matron of Honor, but really they just see it as you validating their excuses and they end up doing it again.
Say something like “I have really appreciated that you have been a good friend and Bridesmaid or Best Man helping me with the wedding, but in the past month or so you seem distracted and harder to get a hold of. Is something up??”