- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2016
I need some perspective here from some wise women. I’m normally pretty chill, but I have prided myself on being different. Trouble is, a lot of the stuff I have envisioned is on lots of amazing blogs, so it’s nice to see it come together, but it also means it’s quite popular.
Case in point: yesterday, I went shopping with two casual friends of mine; one has purchased her dress, the other had not until today (I’ll get to that in a minute). While at the appointment, I was asking all kinds of questions for the bride, helping her and our other friend pull dresses. Our friend was asking me lots of questions about what I wanted, and asked to see photos of dresses I have tried on – and I showed her. This evening, the bride announces that she has found her dress (yay!) so I ask her to send me a photo – and it’s the main contendor I had tried on, which I had mentioned yesterday before they had gone to the bridal shop that had it. I don’t think this was intentional, as she has a heart of gold and upon previous conversations, has described things that I have wanted, so I know we just happen to have similar taste. It’s from David’s Bridal, which is very budget-friendly and obviously makes tons of the same dress.
We all laughed about how the bride and I have very similar taste, and I said that even though I had called “dibs” on a couple of things, she was having her wedding first, so I would figure out the rest later.
It’s not a big deal, but this is the first time I have felt that happen (jealousy/competition/cattiness over venue/dress/etc.) My FI has been saving for a ring for several months, and has been having quite the challenge finding what I want (again with the unique taste, lol). Anyway, she’s getting married first, so I’m just looking for a little reassurance that it’s ok to feel a bit nuts and then regroup and have a wedding that still feels unique and like us, even if some of the stuff has been done before. My FI might be in the wedding party also, so he will have seen the dress, which is why I’m a bit thrown off. It’s not even worth mentioning to the other women for me, because I don’t want it to get blown out of proportion. And I can’t tell FI why I’m bummed, when I usually tell him everything. Gahh! One of my best friends offered to help me hand-embroider details on it to make it my own, which helps make me feel better (she is very talented), but naturally since it’s not completed yet, I’m antsy.
Will FI not be surprised? Is he going to notice it’s the same dress? What if I had already purchased this dress? Has anyone had to deal with this? Sigh. This is the dress: