She doesn't like me…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2162 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

She’s tripping because she cheats on him. It’s like how all cheaters think they are being cheated on. Isn’t her cheating enough for him to break it off? Then add her sour attitude on top of that…ew, UGLY.

What are your friend’s thoughts on this?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@elliptical2013:  I don’t get why he doesn’t just leave her. Not because she doesn’t like you, but because of all the terrible ways that you’ve described her…like she doesn’t get along with anyone else either, cheats on him, and excuses herself for cheating because he’s “emotionally cheating”?! WTF there is something wrong with her!!! He needs to get out of that relationship!

I feel bad for you because of how her attitude has affected your relationship with your bestie, but man, I feel really sorry for him!

Post # 8
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I can kind of relate to what you are going through.

I have had 2 best guy friends for as long as I can remember. We were always the “three amigos” and were together a lot.

The midde one of us agewise, we’ll call him C, is in the Air Force so a lot of the time it was just me and the youngest of us, we’ll call him A. A and I got even closer after C left because we just had to rely on each other a lot more.

A and my FI got along great. We would double date whenever we could and otherwise enjoyed each other’s company.

Well, A started dating this girl last year. We’ll call her T. At the beginning, he would still talk to me all the time, we would hang out, etc. Then all of a sudden everything stopped. Turns out T doesn’t like me. She thinks I “want” A. Now, A is 3 years younger than me and more or less like my brother. I’ve been with my FI for over 3 years and we are quite happy. I have never liked T. When they were talking, she went and spent the night at her exes house because he went out to dinner with 3 of his guy friends and 1 girl (who wasn’t me). She got mad that I went over to his house, invited, one night when she wasn’t there. I have been more than nice and I still cannot get her to like.

I haven’t talked to A in almost 6 months now. It sucks. I miss our friendship. I miss the way things were before he started dating T. But, I cannot make him realize that he might be better off without her.

As difficult as it may be, you have to let him deal with it. He cannot force her to like you or you to like her. Until a time when he realizes that she isn’t good for him, just try and be a good friend. That is just about all you are going to be able to do.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If he’s your best friend I would honestly tell him to dump her cheating ass.  Even if you were male you would say the same thing!  She sounds like an asshole. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@elliptical2013:  It has been hard especially because I feel used in a way. I was the one who was always picking him up and putting him back together when things got bad for him and now, when I really need him because our other friend is a 12 hour time difference away, he is no where to be found.

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