Post # 1
I actually heard this on the radio this morning as I was making my morning jaunt to the bakery.
This woman was asking for relationship help because her husband wants to have daughters and she hated the idea. The woman said she wanted to be her man’s “only girl” and now she doesn’t know if she wants to have kids because she’s afraid she’ll get stuck with a girl. She said she’d be “jealous” of a close father/daughter relationship.
The expert asked if she was close to her own father and she said no. So now they’re stuck in a limbo, with her refusing to get pregnant and her husband’s on the verge of filing for divorce.
Sometimes I wonder if they make this stuff up but I suppose it could be true.
Do you know anyone that feels this way?
Post # 3
@EmilyInIdaho: I Have a friend who decided not have kids for this very reason… seemed CRAZYY to meee but to each his/her own..
Post # 4
@EmilyInIdaho: I always said we’d never have female pets because I’m the HBIC in our house. Our girl kitty tends to disagree.
This woman obviously has some daddy issues. I mean, I have my share of daddy issues but should we ever decide to have children (which I’m 99% certain we will NOT), I’d want a girl. I would want to see my FH have an amazing bond with his daughter and raise her to demand respect and nothing less.
Post # 5
I have definitely heard of that before. Its obviously a ludacris way of thinking.
Anyone who is planning on being a mother (to any gender baby) should be prepared to be selfless because essentially that is what being a mom truly is. Clearly the woman is delusional about what being a mother is.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I have never heard of anyone else feeling this way! I know some of my girl friends have said they hope they have boys since they know how difficult THEY were when they were teenagers, haha, but in all reality if they had a girl they would love that little baby princess to pieces.
I guess I just struggle with how you could be jealous of your own child… the relationships are obviously meant to be very different and I guess I just can’t understand why she would be jealous! I guess the “attention” aspect but then I also can’t understand being so desperate to have all the attention that you can’t share it with you child…. I don’t want to judge harshly because who knows what she might have been through in her life but I will admit she sounds a little toooo needy….
Post # 8
I am glad that she’s spoken out about how she feels. That way she won’t ever have to make a daughter suffer from a mother who hates her.
She probably needs therapy, but until she gets things sorted out, it’s a great thing she’s not having any children.
Post # 10
@EmilyInIdaho: I think this is pretty common actually – I have a friend who’s mother has ALWAYS been nasty to her bc she’s jealous of her relationship with her own father.
Post # 11
@Double_rainbow: I thought the same thing. I’d feel terrible for the poor girl that would have to grow up with a mother like that.
Post # 12
i actually know a woman who told me in the past her mother is VERY jealous of her. she had an unusually close relationship with her dad and said her mom didn’t like it and was very irrational about it. sounded VERY crazy to me at the time. this sounds equally crazy.
Post # 13
My aunt is like this. She had a boy and wanted her tubes tied. Doctors asked her why? and that she was still young. She said if they couldn’t promise her a boy for her next one she didn’t want anymore kids. She’s okay with being the only girl in her husbands life.
I don’t judge her for it. To each their own.
Post # 14
@MissGemini: ya i’m in ontario too, maybe it’s the same girl 😉
Post # 15
Oh for pete’s sake really? A wife is different relationship than a father daughter relationship. That chick needs to get over it
Post # 16
Unless you think he plans on sleeping with your daughter (which is a whole different list of problems), it is a completely different kind of love.
That woman is batshit insane. If she doesn’t want a daughter, fine. I don’t want kids but I REALLY wouldn’t want a girl as I was a teenage girl once and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. But for the reason of jealousy? That is completely irrational/