Post # 1
So I have a little story to share about one of my bridesmaids who is a graphic designer and was going to design my invitations for me.
Basically, I asked her to do a graphic for me in the invitation design. When she said she couldn’t draw graphics, I drew one I liked and asked her to please use it in the invitation. She refused to do it because then the design "wouldn’t be hers." That’s when I found out that she had offered to do it more for her portforlio than as a wedding gift to me 🙁 I begged her to please just do it as a favor, to just throw some text on my drawing for me (because I didn’t really know how to or even have the necessary software), and she refused. I even said she could do her own design as well and I would decide between the two, but she assumed I’d pick mine automatically, and told me to "get someone else," and she’d "get me another gift." A friend of mine who had the software ended up helping me finish them up. Anyway, so the story now is that she decided, after I already printed mine, to send me what she "would have done," and now everyone I’ve asked likes her design better. It would only cost $25 to reprint the invites, but FI doesn’t think I should do it out of principle.
She won’t let me post her design on here, because she doesn’t want anyone to "steal it" (like really, please, you’re not THAT good), but this is mine … I just think it looks so childish now compared to hers. I don’t know why she even sent it to me knowing I had already printed mine, I was so happy with mine before 🙁
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum
That sucks, but your invite is so adorable! I love it!
Post # 4
not to be a brat, but i think you should post hers anyway because she didn’t respect you very much. that said, yours is adorable! i really like it 🙂
Post # 5
I am a professional Graphic Designer and frankly I think all stuff she said is crap. I have done many friends wedding, shower and baby annoucements. I would never do that to a friend or even a freelance client. Sounds like she is just bent out of shape becaue you had your own ideas for your invites. Some artists are a pain in the butt like that. It’s not really feasible to work like that in the professional world.
Keep yours!!! I agree with your fiance. Do not give her the satisfaction of thinking she was justified in her behavior. She is acting like a baby. Yours are cute and they have special meaning because you made them. When you look at them you will always think of the time and effort and love that went into them.
I like yours better no matter what hers look like.
And by the way if you contributed to pieces of a project (i work with large teams on graphics) they are fair game to use in your portofolio. Everyone knows whern you go for interviews that you had writers, art directors, illustrators and various team members working on a campaign.
Post # 6
Wow… that’s extremely selfish of her. Your BM also has a poor attitude. I understand that in her type of business copying can be an issue, but watermark it! She also missed out on a business opportunity. What if one of the brides looooved her designs & sent you a message asking for her information?
I’m a firm believer in sharing your work.
Look at Martha Stewart. Her whole empire was built on sharing her recipes & tips! Had she kept it all a secret, she wouldn’t have ever become such a success. As a small business owner where my recipes are my income, I remind myself of her story and I’ve completely changed my attitude towards "copying". I’m even considering writing my own cookbook 🙂
Post # 7
This is a bridesmaid? Wow. Sounds to me like you need to have a serious talk with her and quick. If she’s acting this way about something like an invite, I can only imagine what else she’ll decide to go "bridesmaidzilla" on. Geez.
And I agree with CC. Your invite is super cute!
Post # 8
I think yours is adorable and totally unique and memorable. I think it’s really really awesome.
Plus the other invite was made in spite, so that’s kind of bad karma-y.
Post # 9
what do you want to do???? its your wedding and your emotions so go with what makes you happiest and makes you feel good about yourself and your wedding
i dont like how you wrote you begged her to help and she refused and then afterwards showed you. if a friend asks for help a good friend will respond in kind and do what they can without being a drama queen about it
personally i think your invites are cute & personable – you did them yourself and that earns kudos with me!
Post # 10
@SCCRNE, thanks so much. For some reason what you said about her in the professional world and how as a designer thats not something you would ever do really made me feel better. I was thinking the same thing! She is completely incapable of taking any input. Everything is about her and "her design" and she didn’t care what I wanted for my wedding.
Personally, I think the best invite would have been a combination of our two (like what I orignally asked her to do), but I guess we just can’t work together.
@miss LOL, if you or anyone else really wants to see the other design just PM your email address!
@recessionista, you make some REALLY good points about sharing your work. I’m also pretty protective of my poetry and such, but you really sold me.
Thanks to all who said mine was cute! The only thing I can say about mine is that, while hers is very pretty and professional, it’s missing my sense of humor 🙂
Post # 11
Engaged, I REALLY like your invite. I haven’t seen hers so I can’t compare them, but I think yours is adorable and I really love that *you* made it, and so will your guests. I say go with it!
Post # 12
I’m so frustrated all … I tried to talk to her about it and she won’t even admit she’s done anything wrong. All we do is fight. We never see eachother because she can’t commit a day a week in advance pretty much ever. I’m thinking of just ending the friendship until she grows up one day and says something heartfelt … she is not the same person she used to be.
… 23 years down the drain.
Post # 13
Um, I think your invitation is awesome! Stick to yours! Both because its AMAZING and out of principle!
Post # 14
Awww I’m so sorry. Something sounds amiss – I’m not so sure I would have kept pressing her for help if she pushed back so firmly on it. A ‘no’ can sometimes mean ‘not now’ but her ‘no’ was like ‘Heck no!’ That is odd. Might wanna distance yourself a little. **Hugs**
Post # 15
I love your invite! Super cute! And, you made it so its special. Your friend’s reaction is really strange, I have no idea what would cause that. I agree with your FI though, don’t reprint them on principle. Your friend is being totally ridiculous and unreasonable, I can’t imagine why someone would behave that way.
Post # 16
I think yours is fun and shows a ton of personality! Go with it, and remember that everyone will love it, because you did it! Move on from her negatvitiy, you don’t want that surrounding your big day.