Post # 1
If you haven’t seen previous posts (mostly in other threads, not my own), I really hate my FI’s SIL. Various reasons, and in the interest of keeping this post short-ish, I won’t go into them. She and FBIL had a HUGE wedding. They literally invited everyone they’d ever met because, hey, they weren’t paying, so hey, why not spend someone else’s money? We are paying for our wedding mostly ourselves with very little help from FI’s parents and no help from my family. We had to cut out a lot of people that we would have liked to invite to be able to afford this, especially since FI’s family is huge.
So I just get a notification from Facebook that she’s posted on my wall (mind you, from her fake profile, because I’m “not allowed” on her real one lolz):
“If there is still time or room for my Parents & Sister’s Family they would probably love to come to your wedding & celebrate with you both!”
2. I HATE her parents. HAAAAAAAAATE. Her dad is crass and incredibly racist and a huge asshole. We spent a couple of days with them when FI’s nephew was born, and her parents would not leave his brother’s tiny apartment EVER to let us spend time with them (despite being down there for THREE weeks). I had to listen to his racist bs for all three days, including trying to get a black man’s attention by snapping at him and calling him “boy.” No, I am not kidding. We are from Michigan. These people run a fucking daycare.
3. I’ve met her sister ONCE. I never even exchanged any words with her!
Thankfully, FI immediately responded, very civilly, that we are keeping costs down by limited space and the guest list is already set (invitations have already been sent and we have a ton of RSVPs already, ffs!), which is MUCH nicer than I would have been, especially with all of the other shit they’ve been pulling lately. He also asked her to have his brother call him, since he’s been trying to get ahold of him for a couple of WEEKS now (brother is supposed to be best man, but we are to the point where FI will be asking him, at the very least, to just be a groomsman, and preferably, to just come as a guest). They have literally been my single largest source of stress during wedding planning and I am about to lose it.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Wow, they all sound horrible and yeah, who invites their whole family to someone else’s wedding!? That’s like at LEAST an additional 4 people that (I’m guessing) you barely know.
Post # 4
Obviously some people have never heard of a little thing called manners!
Post # 5
holy smokes, she is out to lunch! kudos to your fi for taking care of it – it’s nice to see after all the posts on here where stuff like this happens and the fi is nowhere to be found! at least you’re both on the same page 🙂
Post # 6
Interesting. I don’t see what her having a big wedding had anything to do with, but it’s never polite to invite others to someone else’s event.
Post # 7
@vorpalette: Ha! What a lunatic!! good on you for having your FI deal with it. DH and I do that to each other all the time — “Please deal with this, because if I do, it’s going to be ugly.” It’s a good habit to get into, haha. Sometimes we even write each other’s emails so that it still ‘comes’ from the ‘right’ person but isn’t nearly as rough as it would be if the pissed-off one wrote it
Post # 8
@vorpalette: Seriously, wtf is up with these people???? I honestly did not think people like this existed until I started reading these threads. Honestly. Crazy town!
Post # 9
Ugh. My only advice: scream into a pillow, grab a glass of wine, and block her on FB! Sounds like a nightmare, you’re def doing the right thing by not expecting anything out of the best man, I remember one of your other posts about that shitstorm. Everything will work out and you’ll have an amazing wedding, just keep ignoring these fools : )
Post # 10
Sometimes, you meet a person’s parents and you’re pleasantly surprised that despite their upbringing, they managed to become a fantastic person and are a pleasure to be around.
The rest of the time, you look at the parents and go “Yep, no doubt where that shithead came from”. This is one of those times. Give your fiance a kiss and know that he’s awesome for taking the iniative to respond to the post, and that he did so in a civil manner!
Post # 11
@vorpalette: Makes me glad that FI is an only child… with only one cousin… no BIL or SIL to worry about. (He’s not so lucky though… poor fella)
Post # 12
Ugh, who does that? I would never have the nerve to invite other people to someone’s wedding. And from her fake FB profile?! Seriously?
Post # 13
@vorpalette: lol um……….. just no. What a crazy person! Why does she think her parents and sister should be invited to your wedding?!!?!
Post # 14
@vorpalette: She obviously doesn’t know how much you dislike her. I give you kudos for being so darn nice!
Post # 15
OMG this is horrifying. I remember the posts about $ and FBIL’s wedding.
Good tihngour FI knew he needed to handle business. Most bees have to reseort to saying something on your own…which…eesh – no thanks. (Not that I don’t think you have the intestinal fortitude to straighten her out 🙂
Post # 16
@MrsWBS: Because, like I said, they invited everyone they’d ever met to their wedding. FMIL’s neighbors, random distant relatives they’d met one time (even FMIL was like, “I have no idea why they invited so and so”), etc., but they weren’t spending their own money, so why would they care who comes? FI’s parents and her parents paid TONS of money for their wedding (not to mention that they didn’t so much ask for the money as they did tell FI’s parents that her parents were giving them $X, so they also had to give them that same amount), so, despite being married already, she obviously has no clue about etiquette or that yes, inviting people we don’t know is a big deal.
My MOH was floored by this when she saw it. She said she thinks it was posted on my Facebook so that I would feel like I had to say yes. Too bad I’m not a pushover.