(Closed) She might get fired…

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would leave it alone..she probably won’t come anyway so I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@hiroshymatetrastar:  How long do you have before you have to send out invites?  I know exactly what you mean by all of this and totally understand.  Maybe just wait it out and figure it will all fall into place?  Chances are, if she does get fired, you both will naturally stop talking much, if at all.  

Post # 6
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3943 posts
Honey bee

You dont have to decide right now. We didnt send STD’s to anyone from work just in case something weird were to happen. So I would wait and make a decision when you are getting invites ready

Post # 7
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Don’t send her a STD.  Just send her an invite if she is still around when the time comes.

Post # 9
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3377 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

So it sounds like this isn’t going to be someone that you’re going to miss at your wedding, am I interpreting this correctly? You said you get along great at work, but not when you’re not working, so why would you want her there any way? It sucks you won’t have someone to have a great time with at work ( I know it makes the day go by MUCH quicker), but at the same time this doesn’t sound like someone that you exactly need at your wedding if you know you probably won’t be getting along. This is a day for your loved ones who you cherish, not people who you just tolerate outside of work. 

Personally, I wouldn’t even send her an invitation. If you aren’t going to be working with her any more, are you still going to hang out with her? It sounds like you already harbor a resentment for her standing you up before. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee

@hiroshymatetrastar:  Hmm. If you sent her a STD then she is basically invited at this point :/ Unless you two have a crazy falling out or something drastic happens, you are sort of obligated to invite her now.

Post # 12
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3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would hope you wouldn’t harbor resentment because of her illness. I personally would still invite her. That way she at least has the opportunity to show up to your wedding and celebrate. I understand she may be flakey but I don’t know what her exact medical issues are (and I’m sure you’re not 100% certain she hasn’t disclosed every little detail about it). She may be embarassed and feels like blowing you off is easier than calling and explaining that something is going on with her.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@hiroshymatetrastar: okay good. I didn’t mean to sound snippy in that last post. lol I hate how the internet doesn’t allow for tone! but anyways I’d still invite her. It’s only one extra person and who knows she may surprise you. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Oooh I was sent an STD by a colleague, but the she got fired. I got an invite 6 months later, but we hadn’t seen each other since she left. I tried to meet up with her for coffee, to assess thesituation and see if she actually wanted me there, or if she didn’t. She wouldn’t get back to me. So I declined the invite.

Harsh measures, but maybe ignore her? I know I won’t be inviting any of my colleagues because I don’t want people at my wedding that I won’t give a toss about when I don’t see them every day!

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