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The other day I was texting one of my old high school BFF. I mentioned how I bought my wedding dress and sent her a picture of me in it on my phone because I don't get to see her very often and I was very excited.
Well this morning I wake up to find out that she put the two pictures of me in my dress on FACEBOOK. Luckily I found them before my FI got on and told him not to get on until I could resolve it. I texted her right away and said that, while it was a nice gesture, I would really appreciate it if she took the pictures down.
Am I crazy for being offended. I'm excited about the dress but I don't want EVERYONE seeing it. Or have to worry about my FI seeing it. I know she did it because she thought I was beautiful in it but I'm shocked.
oh my gosh; you are not crazy for being offended!
it was crazy of her to do that, even with good intentions!
I don't understand why she would post pictures of you on Facebook. That makes no sense to me.
i'm sorry to say but thats absurd.. i have never heard of anyone posting pics of someone else in their wedding gown BEFORE their wedding day.. theres just NO good reason why she would do that
I don't either. It's not like I asked her to. I just sent her the pictures the other day and said omg I love my dress and then this morning I wake up to find them on facebook. I wouldn't have even known they were on there if I hadn't gotten a text notification saying I was tagged. Then my FI really would've seen them!
Then she updated her status that she is leaving for another city today for a famliy reunion. I don't think I can take the pictures off if she doesn't. I'm getting really upset.
You can at least untag yourself for now. I'm assuming that your FI is friends with her on FB too?
@MissAsB: I'm not sure if he is. He said I can just untag myself and then check on his facebook to see if they still show up.
More proof the facebook is of the devil!
I would be totally pissed. You are right to be offended.
you are totally NOT crazy for being offended! I would be for sure!
even if you untag them, if he is friends with her, it may come up in his minifeed that she uploaded some new pics.. facebook can be like that. Cant you call her? no matter where she is, there must be internet access, its just gonna take a minute for her to delete the picture... goodness am gettin upset just thinking how i would feel if someone did that to me!
Wow. She probably wasn't thinking about your fi seeing it, but I'd still be upset.
@bells: Well I did untag it. And I got on his facebook with his permission to make sure he can't see it in his minifeed. So at least I did some damage control until she actually takes them off.
How bad is it that I wish I had her password just to remove them right now?
@SweetRose2011: I would ask for her password. I honestly would. And if she's your friend, she would give it to you. It's not like you would do anything more than delete the photos and she can change it when she gets back home. Or she should stop at an internet cafe or borrow an iPhone or something while she's on the road. I would call her and bring up all of these options.
Try to stay calm, girlfriend! {{hugs}} I think we are all upset enough on your behalf!
Inexcusable, honestly, and I would be extremely frustrated and anxious if someone did that to me.
THats so rude of her! I would be upset too!
That is unbelievable. Who does that? I would not only be pissed about the FI but also about other people seeing it. Everyone knows how brides feel about their wedding dresses. Good Luck, hope it all gets resolved :)
@canadianbacon: OK, so she finally texted me back and said "ha ha no problem ha ha" I dont think she realizes how rude it was of her to put them on there in the first place. I'm not going to ask her for her password, I'll trust they come down, but I will for sure be checking my FB like a mad woman to see when they do.
OMG what is her deal??
She wasn't even with you when you were shopping... ? Too weird!!
WTF! Who DOES that? Even if your FI wasn't on FB, it is still not cool. Maybe you want to keep your dress private from everyone until you walk down the aisle. I would be so pissed.
Wow, I don't understand people. You have every right to be upset and ask they be taken down. Some people have no common sense. I'm upset for you!
I just have to say that's really weird. I could understand maybe one of my BM's posting me in a dress (which they wouldn't anyways) when we all went out looking for our dresses but just randomly posting is weird.
Awww, I would be a little frantic too but I really doubt she meant anything bad by it. I bet she just got excited and wanted to show people. At least she took them down before it ruined the surprise for FI. :) Some people just don't think about small stuff like that.
Some people are truly clueless. Like everyone else, I would be furious. Some people truly do not have common sense. Thank goodness she will take it down though. I would also be upset thinking of anyone else who saw it other than FI. Most of us want that big moment when we make our "grand entrance". It's rude for someone to take away that moment.
That is very strange for a friend to post those pictures. It makes you wonder what her intentions really where.
I believe you can report the photo to facebook. It should be on the bottom right hand side under the photo. They may even be able to remove it.
That is really odd. I don't know of anyone who would do that sort of thing, what was she thinking? I would definitely not send her any more info about the wedding, seems like she's a social networking addict. I'm still shocked over this. People these days, so addicted to sharing every little detail on facebook! It's creepy
Sounds like your friend was excited for you and wanted to share with others the image of her beautiful friend. Totally understandable that you would want her to take it down. We live in a world of social networking which can be fun, but definitely can take the element of specialness out of some things!
@sand dollar: Well, it was just surprising to me, because she's not on Facebook as much as say, me. I mean she's only on once in a while.
@ZoeKat: That's another reason why I'm upset. I don't want everyone to know what it looks like so the only people that have seen my dress are my mom, MIL, BMs and the girl that posted the picture on Facebook. I also sent it to someone else that I'm not inviting to my wedding but was my childhood friend, and my MOH's sister. So I didn't understand why, when I'm obviously not telling everyone this should even happen. I was shocked.
@RenoRose: She hasn't taken them down yet, though she said she would so I won't panic persay but I'm hoping that not a lot of people see the pictures before she takes them off. They probably wouldn't see them unless they were friends with her too.
Oy. Honestly, I would call her and ask her - nicely - to take them down now. And then I suggest letting her know that it's important to you that your dress be kept private.
Whoa. I'm with MissHelen - I would call her and ask that she take them down immediately.
I would be SO upset if I were you! Like most everyone who has posted, I cannot imagine why she would do that. Most people know that the dress is usually a surprise to most, if not almost everyone, at the wedding. Even if she didn't know that, common sense would tell you not to post a picture on a public forum of someone in her wedding dress BEFORE the wedding. Sheesh!
I hope she takes the photos down quickly and that no one else has seen them or copied them. Keep us posted!
Not at all! pics of you are one thing, but of you in your dress? thank goodness you got to her quickly and hopefully she gets them down!
Wow, how rude!! Some people are so clueless. I'm sorry you had to go through this today. Hopefully it comes down soon.
I would be so f-ing pissed. I picked out my dress with my sister and my mom, and aside from possibly showing it to my FMIL, I'm not showing it to anyone else. So yea, I'd be absolutely furious.
That is super insensitive! I'm so sorry. Hopefully she takes them down asap!
I. Would. Be. Pissed. And I totally don't understand how she doesn't comprehend that what she did is not acceptable. Plus, why in the world would you post a picture of someone else in their wedding dress before their wedding on your own facebook page? Who does that?!
I would be livid. The only people who have seen my dress are my BMs. The big dress reveal is one of the things I'm really looking forward to on my wedding day.
Let us know when she takes it down--hopefully soon!
i would fliiiiip out. You are definitely being nicer than I would!
Yes, I would flip out, too!
And I've shown my dress to lots of people, but I would be absolutely crushed if my FI saw it before the day. And facebook can't be helped - people tag you, and then everyone can see you! I would have had a total meltdown in your position!
I once made a similar mistake on a much smaller scale out of excitement - when being fitted for my BM dress for my brother's wedding, I pointed out the bride's dress to my auntie, who hadn't seen it. The bride wasn't there, and never knew, but I was racked with guilt afterwards! Sooo guilty! I hadn't thought when I was doing it, I was just excited. But that was ONE person (who was invited dress shopping, but couldn't come on the day), and there was no chance of the groom seeing.
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