Post # 1
so my dress arrived yesterday (yay!) and when i went to try it on today, i was told that i shouldn’t wear flats like i’ve been planning on. she said the dress wouldn’t lay right (i’m assuming that’s what she was trying to say) and that i would look short. i AM short and a long dress will only make me look shorter, so i should probably give myself a few extra inches, but i’d really rather wear flats.
she told me to at least wear heels for pictures, but i am only wearing 1 pair of shoes that day. i don’t want my dress to be dragging if i change from heels to flats. my reception is outside, so my dress will get dirty if it’s too long.
i guess i’d be ok with a wedge or a thicker heel that isn’t too high, but i already bought some flats that i really like (and it took me forever to find those) and i really don’t want to start my search again. most women looove shoe shopping, but i hate it. i’m a size 5, so i don’t always have a lot to choose from and it gets so frustrating.
she won’t start on alterations until july, so i have some time to think about it and start shopping around (again!).
has anyone had to deal with this? what did you do? stick with flats? go for a heel? i have no idea what to.
this is a pic of me in the dress. it’s allure c182.
Post # 3
So I have 2 trains of thought on this issue:
1. You should wear what you love and feel comfortable in. If you hate heels and are entirely opposed to them and don’t want them for your wedding day, then don’t do it! It’s your wedding day and you should be happy with what you are wearing.
2. That being said, are you really truly opposed to a 2 inch heel on the shorter side? I really think the dress will “lay” better with heels, and wearing heels will also help your posture too and will look better in pictures IMHO.
Post # 4
I’m wearing flats no matter what anyone says! If you’re more comfortable in flats, then wear flats. I’m of the mindset that comfort is more important that looking 100% perfect. What’s the point in the dressing laying better if you’re hobbling around and miserable.
Post # 5
if it matters, i was wearing a fairly high heel in that picture. another thing i forgot to mention- she’s going to add boning (basically a hoop) to keep the dress/lining from getting all stuck between my legs. would that make a difference in what shoes i could get away with?
@AshleyR83: yeah, i do agree that the dress will probably lay better if i had a little more height. i’m not entirely opposed to a heel. i do wear them occasionally, but i’ve never had to wear them for more than a few hours at a time. my ceremony is at 2 and my reception is over at midnight; that’s a long time for me to be stuck in heels. i guess i can try it tho. i have all summer to make high heels my new best friend, haha
@BetterSherm: that’s how i was too! no one was going to talk me out of my flats…but now i don’t know. dammit 🙁
Post # 6
Who is “she” anyway?
Some of us women (I am one) CAN’T wear high heels (not even 2 inch) because of foot problems.
Post # 7
sorry, i should have clarified that. the “she” i’m referring to was the owner of the store. she does it all- sales, alterations, whatever.
Post # 8
Personally I would just wear the flats. The last thing I want to be thinking about on my wedding day is how much my feet hurt.
Post # 9
First of all, you look amazing in that dress! Just stunning! Wear what you want to wear. You are the bride, and you will look great. I am wearing flats. They tried to talk me in to heels too and quickly realized they might as well have been talking to a brick wall. 🙂 I am super short–five feet tall.
Post # 10
I think the theory that shoes make a dress “lay better” is pretty much crap. You’re getting the dress altered to the length it needs to be for a specific shoe – the dress can’t tell if it’s a heel or not! I rocked flats at my wedding, and I looked awesome. You will too!
Post # 11
@PilotsGirl56: thank you! and i’m five feet tall also 🙂
@crayfish: that makes sense.
thank you everyone for your advice and opinions!
Post # 12
If you would be more comfy in flats, then you should wear flats. Don’t listen to what “she” says, that’s just her opinion.
Post # 13
I say no problem with flats since I’m wearing birks but if you want to trial run heels I suggest body glide and grocery shopping. The body glide reduces skin irritation and hot spots and holding onto a cart can be a good idea at first. Good luck in your decision.
Post # 14
I would find some comfortable heels. Yes, they do exist especially if you try some higher end brands.
The reasons that I would say to wear heels are that they change your posture and make your whole body look more appealing, and because of the shape of the dress that you have choosen, the skirt will look better the longer you can keep it. It won’t look right if it’s cut short.
Post # 15
If you CAN wear a short heel or wedge of some sort, I would suggest that you consider doing so. The woman who owns the bridal salon where I purchased my gown told me that she always recommends that brides wear some sort of a heel, because we (women in general) tend to walk differently (I don’t recall exactly what she said, but it was something along the lines of more gracefully) than when we wear flats.
I wore two different pair of 3.5 inch heels (one for the ceremony, and one for the reception), but, before I purchased both of those, I found a great pair of 3″ wedges and had some bling added to them. Something like this (the ones on the left — you can actually see the wedge better in the reflection in the mirror), may be too high for you, but perhaps a similar type of shoe, in a slightly lower wedge, would work.
Post # 16
I’m definitely wearing flats. This is my second marriage and I remember the first time and how sore my feet were after! It always amazes me how ‘they’ try to tell us what to do.
Yes, the shape of your legs are changed in heels but no one will see them. Yes, women do tend to walk differently in flats than in heels but if you are aware of this than you can correct it…think of walking toe to heel rather than heel to toe and that should fix any lack of ‘gracefulness’.
As well, you are having an outside reception just like I am. The last thing I want is to be prying my heels out of the grass with every stride!