Post # 1
I have a friend who I love so dearly, but she wears so much perfume!
Now it doesn’t smell that strong to be standing near her, however, she is a hugger. Everytime we meet and part she wants to hug me. That’s where the problem lies. She effectively transfers all of her perfume smell onto me with these hugs and then I smell it for the rest of the day. It drives me crazy!!
How can I avoid this? Have you ever been in a similar situation?
Post # 3
If you’re close to her and see her often, I’d tell her that you think you’re developing allergies or something because you’ve noticed that strong fragrances (at work, on public transit, in malls) have been giving you headaches. Then tell her that you hate to ask, but if she thinks about it could she go easy on the perfume when you hang out. That way it comes across as “would you do this nice thing for me because i’m weirdly sensitive” not “people can smell you coming a mile away.”
Post # 4
I have the same problem with a fellow volunteer, but you can smell her a good distance away. She also doesn’t wash her clothes regularly, unless she “sees the dirt”. Basically, she smells like stale perfume and body odour all the time, which she must be trying to cover up with more perfume. She does this before coming to help, because she smells like this in the mornings. However, she also does it at some point during the day, because the bathroom REEKS of perfume everyday. It drives me INSANE.
One time, I saw her spraying up in the bathroom, so I tried gently suggesting doing one spray in the air and walking in to the mist (for better coverage, and dispersed smell) because it is an effective method for bringing out the best smells in your perfume, but also because the restroom is very small and perfume lingers in it for a long time. She does mist now, but with her 4-5 mandatory sprays. *facepalm*
She honestly has a pattern. She does 1 spray around the neck, once by each arm pit, and another by her knees/lowerbody. She now stands their and extends her arm and “mists” it on to herself, which is no better than before. What a way to interpret the advice, eh?
Maybe your friend isn’t as crazy as this person, so maybe also try suggesting that she try the one spray into the air and walking in to it.
Post # 5
@mrssrm: This is also a great suggestion.
Post # 6
I might warn her about people with allergies next time you hug her. I’m hypersensitive to perfume, so much so that I carry Epi pens. I’ve broken out in hives from being in the same room as someone with perfume and have had to leave functions because someone near me was wearing perfume. Being near someone wearing perfume could litterally send me to the ER, in fact I have gone to the ER for perfume in the past. I bear disporportionate grudges towards people who aggravate my allergies and often feel tempted to threaten them with my medical bills. Fortunately my friends are all well aware of my allergies and do not wear anything more than deodorant around me.