She Wore 4 Wedding Dresses!

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: How Many Wedding Dresses Do You Plan On Wearing?
    One : (106 votes)
    84 %
    Two (formal for ceremony then changing into more casual/comfy wear for reception) : (10 votes)
    8 %
    Two (formal for ceremony and different formal for reception) : (5 votes)
    4 %
    Three : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Four + (please explain) : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Haha, I know someone who had 5! It’s very common in some Asian cultures to have several dresses though.

    Post # 4
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    544 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Most Asian weddings (Chinese) I’ve been to the bride wears three dresses: western wedding dress, traditional red dress and a cocktail dress for reception.  At first I thought wearing a different white wedding and reception dress is strange but I have got used to it.  I’m not Asian but most of my social circle are.  In fact, most guests change for the ceremony and reception too! 

    But, for someone to have three or more dresses and one of them is not for a traditional cultural ceremony, I find that over the top! 

    Post # 5
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    9529 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Another vote for this being very common in some places, like Japan.

    Post # 6
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    502 posts
    Busy bee

    Why is it so offensive? If she can afford it and it makes her happy, why does that make her narcissistic? Perhaps your assumption that she’s caring about how she looks is misplaced — aren’t weddings often about how you feel? If I had a chance to wear four types of wedding dresses, I’d be like “WOOO ONCE IN A LIFETIME OPPORTUNITY”.

    Post # 7
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    1236 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

    It’s a little over-the-top for my tastes, but in some cultures it’s to be expected. That makes a lot more sense than people who buy multiple dresses then sell one on eBay, or buy a special dress for “trash the dress” shoots.

    Post # 10
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    1321 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    so are you jealous of her?

    Post # 11
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    419 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    SprinkleDonut:  Totally on board with you. Four dresses is over the top. Call me jealous or whatever, but I can’t stand people who flaunt their money/looks/whatever. I think humility is something our society needs to get back. I hate the flashiness and showboating that so many brides are about these days. 

    People can make their day whatever they want, but I totally reserve the right to be judgey about it. 😀

    Of course, if she is a Chinese bride, then that makes more sense, but since your post didn’t mention it, I assume she had four dresses just because. 

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  coachhw.
    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I wouldn’t (and don’t) care how many wedding dresses someone else. What I do wonder is who has the time to care so much about that girl and her 4 dresses? It is very common in some cultures to have numerous ceremonies/receptions and/or dresses. If I had the time for my wedding I definitely would have had 2 dresses. 

    Post # 13
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    1749 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it’s fine. She had the money to do it, so she did. Hey, even if she didn’t have the money, that’s still up to her. 

    In your post you said something along of the lines of “who has the time and energy for that” and “I would be worried about…”, but that’s you, not her. She had the energy, she had the time; she had an idea of what she wanted and she made it happen. I’m sure the “who has time and energy for that” question could be applied to some of the things you want to do or have done. 

    Now, I’ll take your word for it that she’s a narcissist. In that case having four dresses is in-line with her past behavior and, therefore, not a big deal. 

    As for how many dresses I would wear… Hmmm, at least two. 

    Post # 14
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Haha I’m Chinese and had 3 dresses.

    1 for my tea ceremony in the morning, traditional red dress

    1 white wedding dress for civil ceremony in afternoon

    and 1 reception dress which was also red.

    I brought all my dress online and then altered which is why I could afford it.

    but yeah as previous poster said, it’s quite common in Asian cultures/weddings.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Her wedding, her way.

    I say lucky her to have had four dresses!

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