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She probably thinks that the way you choose to live your life is strange as well. Yes, she definitely sounds like she does things very differently than most people I know. But, that doesn't mean that you need to judge her.
I'm not judging her, I just think she's a very sheltered person and I would NEVER do that to my kids. You need to teach your children to live in the "real" world. 22 and don't know how to made a long distance phone call?
Wow I have never met anyone like that before. But if I did I think I would want to ask sooooo many questions!
@troubled - I am blond too so I wax - cleaning up all the baby hairs around the eyebrows really makes a difference and makes your eyes pop - I recommend it!
I deleted the part about eyebrowns out of the post but that's understandable. She has dark brown hair :-) NOTHING against that, I just wonder if she's honestly ever had her hair cut or been to a hair dresser. She has REALLY long hair too.
She’s never made a long distance call before????!!!
I’m always quite nervous for girls (well, at 22 – women) who are that sheltered. They seem so much more naive and easy for someone (unscrupulous men in particular!) to take advantage of. :(
Um, i would be totally judging away from my cubicle!
She's going to have to figure it out awfully fast if she wants to work in the "real world" as an engineer. Nobody will ever respect her if she's a sheltered little girl.
I don't think my manager would never hire somebody like that for our team because if you don't know how to make phone calls, how in the world can you work a computer? Do virtual meetings? All the other tasks you have to figure out for yourself?
Yeah.
PS i'm not surprised about said eyebrows/lack of style. I have met very few well groomed women engineer in my day. They're pretty lax about makeup/style in general. Drives me nuts by the way...=]
Ok - I was super confused about the eyebrow plucking comments until I read that you deleted that part...
Uh, I think I would be a little weirded out also. And I agree totally with gabrielleelise
Not judging, but really - they need to cut the cord. She's 22 - if she doesn't get at least some life skills she will be in a bad way. Agree with gabrielleelise.
@ejs: Most women that were in my engineering program at Purdue were very well groomed. I plucked my eyebrows, mostly b/c I'd have a unibrow if I didn't. I don't wear make often b/c my skin gets irritated and breaks out from EVERY type of foundation, powder, and moisturizer I've used.
As for her, she's 22 and if she can't make a long distance call then she's in the wrong field. I don't understand how she could get a internship when at my school ALOT, if not all the students who can do such a thing and work very hard are finding it impossible to find internships. She should thank her lucky stars.
Wow I'm SOOO glad I didn't end up with a bunch of hate reply posts and you guys think the same as me.
I honestly feel sorry for her. Her parents have sheltered her WAY too much. I totally agree with it's time to cut the cord!
Ok I dont mean to sound odd but the whole calling her dad "daddy" thing would TOTALLY creep me out! I dont care who you are at some point your dad stops being daddy and you realize your a full grown woman only 4 year olds have "daddys".
I love the show 19 kids and counting and I think their faith is SOOO admireable but we dont live in a world where being totally nieve protects you. No offence to the girl but if I were you I would kinda clue her in on some things. Shes never gonna make it in a profession dominated by males. Thats so sad.....
Purdue must be an anomoly, Kare =]
I did notice that civil/architectural women tend to stray away from the stereotype. at least at my school!
Ps the "daddy" thing is SUPER weird.
Agreed about the daddy thing! I told my FI that I swear it's some kind of cult or something. I saw her DAD pick her up one day and she gave him this weird cute flirty smile as he was pulling up.... EW!
I too LOVE the Duggars. But they are kind of strange but thats exactly what she reminds me of except she does wear pants (instead of skirts) lol.
I've tried inviting her out to lunch thinking I might be able to expose her to the "real" world but she wont go because she INSISTS on working thru her lunch so she can leave early when her dad picks her up. AND she lives 5 minutes from work. Probably a 10-15 min walk.
omg when I hear someone say daddy when they're not either 4 years old, or talking to a 4 year old about the kids own dad, it sends shivers up my spine.. haha
yeah the whole dressing the same really creeps me out. I donno why but it just seems so controlling.
Wow I feel bad for her! That kind of thing might work in some cultures, but here in Canada, it's totally not normal, and it'll be hard for her to adjust to the real world if she's not exposed to it. I wonder if she has Internet at home?? Because you can learn a lot of things online... it sounds like she hasn't really been exposed or socialized with different types of people, so it's a shame you can't get her out to lunch to talk to her.. I wonder why her parents are so controlling like that?? They may think they're doing what's best for her, but I can't see how she can gain any independence that way.. what a shame.
She does have the internet at home... she's made comments about it before and I think she dad works from home as a graphic designer or something.
One day she said to me "I can't wait to get home to chat with my best friend. He just got back from his trip and I can't wait to hear about it". It almost sounds like she has other home schooled friends who may be similar to her...
I'm sure her parents do think they're doing what's best for her :-s Sad but a good lesson for all of us, don't shelter your children!!!
I think it all just depends on the way a person is raised, you know, their upbringing. It happens. Perhaps the reason she has never made a LD telephone call is because she never had the need to. Just as there are needs for things, there are also things that have no need. If she chooses to live that way, that is just the way she is, I suppose. What appears to be strange to you, she might think the way other people live is strange.
I find this really odd - are you in a rural part of Alberta.
In Ontario I know home schooled kids HAVE to attend a public highschool to graduate for grades 11 and 12 I think! So you would've thought that would have given her some exposure.
But also how did she get her degree - all online courses?
I just don't get why she wouldn't WANT to leave home and gain her own experiences.
I find it weird when anyone that age is attached to their parents. I knew a 25 year old in grad school who went home EVERY weekend to spend time with her family. She missed out on so many fun things that we did on weekends and then she would complain that she doesn't have any life experiences, kissed a boy etc.
eh, I call my dad, 'daddy.' but i promise i'll never call him that in front of you guys
I live 15 minutes from Calgary. Here people can home school from grade 1 to 12. But she's going to the University of Calgary. But she mentioned that it's mostly guys in her program so maybe she just sticks to herself?
She also started Uni at 17... she did all her high school courses early.
I don't understand why she doesnt want to gain experiences... maybe she's scared.
She told me once that she's never drank and one day when she feels like "experimenting" she'll do it at home. This all came up because I asked if she wanted a ride to a local pub we were going to for an employees going away... I didn't ask her to drink or ANYTHING. It was a bit strange.
Yikes, did you mention to her that she can go without drinking?
Sounds like she's completely unaccustomed to social situations outside her own niche.
Yes I did. And then she started making excuses about how she better go home after work for a "family" thing. I give up trying to help her!
Just throwing it out there, but I call my dad "daddy" and my mom "mama", as does my alpha male big brother. We don't refer to them as mama and daddy to other people (we just say, "my dad" or "my mom"), but it's just what we've always done.
@ejs - Lol!! OMG totally agree about the non-groomed female engineers... it's unbelievable. I definitely feel like an outcast.
Wow, you'd think by now she would be on her own (or at least able to make calls and drive herself)! At least she has an internship at an engineering job and her parents aren't just trying to keep her sheltered to marry her off.
And I kind of agree with the engineers comment. There aren't a lot of women at my work but they are mostly not big into beauty or 'frou frou' as they called it.
Yeah, sounds like a weird situation. Have to say though, I got my PhD in astrophysics, and I have seen my fair share of sheltered oddballs in my field. The good thing for them is that you can be pretty darn successful in my field without anything resembling "normal" social skills. I'm thinking this might be the same in engineering?
(Hope I'm not offending any fellow astrophysicists out there...)
@ejs - lol!! I guess it's pretty good for the self esteem :P
@skidbo - Soooo true. I am doing a PhD also. And I cannot believe how many people I meet that just DO NOT have ANY social skills! When we talk about our undergrad experiences mine differ so much from theirs. They never went out, never dated and just worked all the time. But all I think about is "and we both ended up in the same place". Ya I probably didn't have as high of marks but at this point marks don't matter and I wouldn't trade my experiences for marks any day!
hmmmm....I was a sheltered kid. My parents were uber strict and insane. As soon as I turned 18 I fled and went nuts living it up. I grew up VERY fast! However with being sheltered I was also given tons of responsibility and as an adult it has helped me prosper. I put myself through college and although it went slowly I got it done.
If you shelter your kids too much, they end up lacking social skills & they don't know how to take care of theirselves. Most of my good friends have been homeschooled & they're not socially awkward. But I've met people who just don't know how to act around others & its not their fault, its just what they're used to. Then there are the kids who aren't sheltered in any way & at 14/15 get into drugs & even getting pregnant. At least she's nice & maybe that job will help her get a little more out in the "real world".
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I just HAD to post this. We have an engineering summer student in my department right now. She is seriously the most sheltered person I've ever met!
She's nice, don't me wrong there. She's 22, lives with her parents and 3 sisters. They were all home schooled.
I saw her family at the mall one day and her and her sisters look the EXACT same. Kind of reminds me of the Duggars...
She doesn't drive, her "daddy" drives her to work every day, she recently asked me how to make a long distance calls... she has NEVER made one before!! WTH?!
She claims she can't stay out past 10:00 PM because her family likes to go to bed early...
Maybe she doesnt sound so bad on here but she's just strange... I can't image sheltering my children that way.