- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
How do I explain this…..
My BFF and I have been friends for 16 yrs, been through the ups and downs, everything you would think friends go through. There is another BFF in the group who has been closer, so I knew she would have been the Maid/Matron of Honor, not hurt about that, but it hasnt even been brought up to me.
My BBF got engaged a few months before me, and I am so very happy for her. When I got engaged I asked her right away to be part of my Bridal Party. Still she never mentioned her Bridal Party. For the past 3-4 months, I have tried to get wedding details out of her and she seemed very scattered. She is a very organized person so this shocked me a little.
She had her bridal shower and it was casually mentioned to me, however I had my cousins wedding that day and I confirmed before I knew her date. Also it was about a 4 hr drive one way. She is having another, and she mentioned that, but again Im not given details.
Last night she came over with her fiance and we all had dinner together. I asked her how the shower went. I got a “it was fun”, I asked her about details for the wedding and I finally got a POOP Load of details and it looks like everything is planned. She also mentioned that they are getting a 16pp limo, I asked why so big, and her response was “bc the Bridal Party is so large, 5 on my side, 5 on his, plus the kids and bride and groom”
thats when it finally hit me, I was excluded from her wedding and she had no intention of including me. It was a difficult night to say the least.
So my question is: how do I handle this? I am so terriblely hurt by this, now I know it is her wedding, but I think I at least deserve to be talked to and explained why i am not included. There have been ups and downs in our friendship as all friendships have and I dont know if I can get over this exclusion.
I do want to add that I dont expect to be included, but I believe that after the history and the fact I asked her only a few months after her engagement that she should have a least told me I wasnt going to be a part of it.
Now I feel heartbroken and I dont know if this is something I can get over, I dont want to sound selfish, but it is all i can think about and Im sure it will always be in my mind….