(Closed) She's planning her wedding and I'm NOT upset about it. Get over it

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

That is annoying, but I guess it’s better to have a family that’s overly concerned about your feelings than completely disregards them. 

Post # 4
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, that is really weird that they are so concerned.  Almost like trying to stir up drama perhaps.  Some people thrive for those triangular relationships – where they talk about someone else with you.

Post # 5
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Haha, amen!

And also, good for you. 🙂 Keep on doing what you’re doing- you’re having a wonderful attitude about the whole thing, even if the rest of the family has gone a little bit nutter butters.

Maybe once everyone else sees how unconcerned you are, they’ll chill down and stop thinking about it so much as well.

Post # 7
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@MissFireFlower:  Will trade my probably off her rocker aunt with a fake engagement for your semi concerned family??? Sounds fun doesnt it?

Post # 8
5243 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MissFireFlower:  Lol Drama Llamas!! Love this! I will need to use this now! People just love drama and are basically just trying to start things that arent there. Jjust ignore it.

Post # 9
3697 posts
Sugar bee

I would defuse this by being relentlessly positive about it: “Oh, that’s wonderful, I’m so happy she found a dress! That’s a big relief when you can cross it off the to-do list,” etc.

Post # 10
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Weird looks like they are stirring up the shit, either that or that had some former family members who went off the rails when something similar happen. Anyways so weird.

Post # 11
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Weddings & Funerals always bring out the worst in people!

Post # 13
4512 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s nice that they’re concerned — from reading these boards, I’ve learned that a lot of women do get upset about this kind of thing.

You are very cool for not being upset. Too much sympathy when you don’t need it is annoying, though. Tell them thanks for the concern, but you’re fine — really!!

Post # 14
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

How trivial and annoying. That would drive me bonkers.

Post # 15
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Some women flip their shit if anyone they know gets married or announces an engagement or pregnancy within a year either way of THEIR DAY. I would be annoyed with my family too if they assumed that that was going to be me, but it’s a thing.

Post # 16
3303 posts
Sugar bee

@TwoCityBride:  Definitely stirring the pot and so unnecessary.

I also find it weird how some brides who didn’t think about their weddings suddenly get the planning bug when another person close starts planning. My Future Sister-In-Law did that – was engaged in early 2010 and had no plans to get married until she found out at the beginning of this year that we had plans and booked a place. It literally turned into a race for her at that point. She planned her wedding in 6 months to make sure she was married before us and it was sooooooo annoying to have her keep calling my Fiance to ask him what WE were doing concerning our wedding. I was so happy the day her wedding came. Since then, peace has returned.

OP, I am glad you aren’t having an issue like that. Your Future Sister-In-Law has every right to plan her wedding, I just find it annoying in a situation like mine.

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