Shipped Shower Gifts

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

amoore2:  Open them and send your thank you note now.

It is not necessary to lug them to the shower at all. If they sent a card with the gift, take the card to the shower to display. You can make a note on the back of the card identifying the gift for the (snoopy) make that curious,  people.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Don’t bother lugging them there, or back. It would be nice to announce the giver and the gift, at your shower, but probably not necessary, if no one knows them. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I just kept them at my house.  I don’t see why you would need to bring them to the shower.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

amoore2:  That’s a rarity! Being criticized because you DID send a thank you note!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I am having the same problem. I agreed to have an option from Macy’s that allows guests to send gifts directly to the house. By mistake some people did send gifts directly to my home instead of theirs. Some people decided to take their gifts back and other told me to open and enjoy. I plan on announcing those that told me to keep them at home… hopefully this wont cause too much of an uproar.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

OMG that’s nuts. I’ve been writing thank you notes as gifts arrive at the house for the wedding. I guess hold off on writing the rest till after the shower, but that’s super weird that you got a negative reaction.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Don’t bring the shipped gifts to the shower.  Someone sent them to you directly instead of bringing it there…so there’s no need to have the bridal shower guests sit longer watching you re-open items you’ve already opened. As they’re OOT and wont be there to  see you open their gift and give them an in-person thank you, you’d just be showing other people what you were given anyhow.

Weird that people are getting mad at you about sending thank you note’s too early.  As a wedding gift can be sent before or after the wedding… as a gift giver you’d think you’d want to know your gift was recieved and appreciated.  But I guess send them out next week and avoid the headache from FMIL.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  Eliza_Bee.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

amoore2:  NO need to bring them to shower.  Open them whenever you want, send a thank you whenever (could be before or after shower).  They probably shipped to the house because they knew it would be a pain for you to lug them back and forth, especially if they won’t even be there.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would say to not bring them to the shower, but if you FMIL got upset about sending the thank you cards too soon maybe you should ask her if you should bring them? To avoid any further disputes. 

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