Shocked about Dad..

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
954 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Nikkimcq:  I’m sad for you that you aren’t feeling the greatest about your Dad 🙁 But do all these feelings stem from wedding related things? Weddings and crowds just aren’t some peoples things, so you may have to give you Dad a little bit of slack. You have to realize that no one is as excited about your wedding as you are, and some people are just chronic procrastinators (my own sis and MOH was 6 days past the due date ordering her dress!)

If hes done a bunch of things no-wedding related thats caused you to have these feelings, then it’s a completely different story.

Post # 4
Member
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Nikkimcq:  I don’t think your Dad is missing appointments and not acting promptly to make a statement.

Some show/recieve love in acts of service (I am one of those) and some don’t.  I understand how you feel somewhat abandoned in this process but I do not think that is your dad’s intention.

Post # 5
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7208 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@CanadianBride456:  I agree with all of this! All I am seeing from the original post is a guy who (apparently) supported and fathered her for 20+ years, but who’s not very interested in weddings and graduations.

@Nikkimcq:  Perhaps there are other, bigger issues which you alluded to at the start. But it seems rather harsh to not have him walk you down the aisle because he hasn’t organised his tux 3 months before the wedding.

Post # 6
Member
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Is he there for you in other important ways? I definitely get how this is upsetting to you, but if he’s just bad with big events and good with other aspects then maybe you shouldn’t write him off entirely.

Post # 7
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6507 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Perhaps he just isn’t interested in weddings?

Post # 9
Member
93 posts
Worker bee

@Nikkimcq:  Does your dad have social anxiety around crowds of people? Or is he introverted? My dad is pretty uncomfortable around crowds, even family. He usually makes some excuse to go outside and smoke just to get away from all the people. Maybe you could ask your dad if he is uncomfortable or nervous around larger groups of people.

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