Post # 1
I thought this might be a fun thread!
A year ago, when I was looking through a wedding magazine I casually asked my FI what kind of dress he was hoping to see me in on our wedding day and he responded, “Anything but lace. I hate lace.”
Of course every single dress I fell in love with before he had declared his distaste was full of lace.
Has your SO shocked you with weird opinions you never thought they’d have?
Post # 3
Hmmm, tricky one! He refuses to engage in any form of conversation about dresses incase he says something that can’t be un-said! He isn’t in to little details, e.g., personalised napkins etc but on the whole, we tend to agree!
Post # 4
He had very strong opinions about flowers. That was interesting and unexpected. It worked out well though, since he handled the florist.
Post # 5
I had this amazing vision of a laid back gray suit for my FI and he was so relaxed about everything I picked I assumed he’d be on board but I was INSANELY wrong. He definitely wanted black! Also he was walking past the living room while I watched say yes to the dress and he stopped for a second and saw a mantilla veil and was like ‘That’s so cool, I hope your veil looks like that!’ I was like =O Crud….it totally doesn’t…since when does a guy even notice a veil!?
Post # 6
Oh, my FI also has strong opinions about the colors for the decor. Unexpected, but kind of a blessing- I couldn’t make up my mind what I liked best, so his opinion on the matter settled it. 🙂
Post # 7
We actually agreed on virtually everything… the only minor disagreement was the location of the rehearsal dinner. He needed to have it at a restaurant we both love, but was really quite far from the location of the rehearsal and where we were staying that night (About half an hour there and back). He had to have it though and we did get a pretty good deal on a meal there anyway.
Post # 8
@murmur: “I was like =O Crud….it totally doesn’t…since when does a guy even notice a veil!?” Hahaha
Post # 9
oh and my FI is very opinionated about food. Half of our food costs went to making sure there’s pretty much enough tri tip for everyone to have a half of one to themselves haha.
Post # 10
He has an opinion on pretty much EVERYTHING, which surprised me. He is usually an “I want whatever you want” person, but he has definitely given me a lot of input. He also said no lace dresses, sadly 🙁
Post # 11
My FI was opinionated about the venue. I mean, everywhere was pretty on that island but he HAD to have that exact one.
Post # 13
Don’t even get me started on the purchased grey suits vs. the rented black tux conversation. I really hope I win in the end and he gets the stupid grey suits.
We have the most incredible venue, it’s absolutely gorgeous inside. Yet for some reason he thinks if its ‘nice’ out, we should move the entire thing out to this giant brick patio. Dude… the whole reason we chose this venue and spent all this money was for this specific room… if you wanted an outdoor venue we should’ve saved our pennies and gone for a much, much less expensive option.
Apparently I didn’t realize the only way to leave your own wedding is in a limo. A $390 limo that we will spend 15 minutes in. Another one I fully intend to win. We’re leaving in yellow taxis and that’s that.
Also, did you know the ONLY dessert you should serve at a wedding is wedding cake? I didn’t realize this and had big plans for a dessert table full of assorted choices. Nope! It’s only cake. Cake. Stupid cake.
Hey! Guess what? I HAVE to wear white! Not because our venue or lack of religion requires it, but because that’s ‘just what people do’. Sayonara, gorgeous grey dress of my dreams.
I could go on. And on.
Post # 14
OMG, FI is way opinionated on things! He is picky about centerpieces, my dress, my hair, music, flowers. I should have just let him plan this wedding!
Post # 15
FI hasn’t been opinionated about much but the things he has cared about have surprised me. For instance, we are going to have the guys in tan suits, and FI picked out one with a vest. I made an offhand comment about how the groomsmen wouldn’t be wearing the vest but it will look great to have just the groom in it. He was not okay with that and was ADAMANT that the guys wear the vests, too. Ummmm, ok…? So that’s happening.
He was also very particular about the food. And that’s about all.
Post # 16
@KristenGotMarried: My husband was exactly like this when planning our wedding. I quickly discovered that my husband just could not imagine a wedding outside of the traditional wedding. He was afraid his parents and friends wouldn’t understand or would judge us if he wasn’t wearing a tux or if we didn’t have a 5 tier wedding cake. Basically, if we didn’t have a wedding that was like every single other wedding he had ever seen or been to. I quickly dissuaded him by showing him pictures. He needed to see what I was thinking because he could not imagine it.