I am the same hieght as my groom. (actually, I am a smidgen taller, but whenever he asks me about it, I always say it is the shoes, even if I am not wearing shoes). He has never minded that with heels on, I am taller (although his mother never shuts up about how I should always wear flats). He also says that for the wedding, he doesn't care what kind of shoes I wear (he is secure in his manhood). I was thinking of going for a kitten-heel type shoe (which is what I usually like anyway because they are so comfortable). Should I wear flats, will it look better in the photos? Should I even care about this at all?
Well dear, I am having a similar issue. I too will be as tall or taller than my groom if I do high heels. Plus, I had these custom ivory and lace converse all stars made for the reception and I can't have my dress hemmed to go with heels or it will be dragging the floor when I put the all stars on.
This has been quite the dilemma for me. It seems like every cute shoe has at least a 2 or 3 inch heel.
So I decided to go the kitten heel route and found what I thought looked like a cute pair of shoes made by colorifics that even seemed to replicate the detail in my dress. So they came a few days ago and when I put them on, they looked like granny shoes!
Needless to say they are in a FedEx truck on their way back to the store I bought them from and I have now decided to go the flat route. I found some cute fancy shmancy sandals on Newport News' website that will work wonderfully and they are on sale for $29! I am most concerned about not looking frumpy while I walk down the aisle, because I have heard that you can look this way without heels. I think that if I am aware of how I am walking I will be ok? (I hope!)
I must add though, that my dress is Rhiannon by Mon Cheri and resembles a greek goddess type gown, so the sandals work, but maybe not for your dress?
Both the flats and the kitten heels are comfortable, I was just concerned with the look. It really depends on the shoe, but don't give up the hunt!
You're not alone! My FI and I are approximately the same height and so shoes have been an interesting situation for me, too. I have to admit that I think it's weird if the guy is significantly shorter than the girl, so I am forgoing the pretty >1 inch heel.
If you really want a kitten heel, I'd say go for it - it probably won't make that much of a difference. If you're really worried about it, quite a few men's dress shoes have a subtle heel, which can help reduce the height difference.
Yeah for the tall ladies! (And the not so tall guys!) I will let you know what I decide. I have a lot of time, wedding in November.
I did recently attend a wedding of our friends in which the bride is 6 ft plus, and the groom is less thsn <6 ft. She wore flats, and they looked great, but some people at the wedding were teasing them about the height thing (which they are used to and it was not mean). I guess it just got me thinking how we will look.
Another option that is not as traditional though, is to wear white ballet slippers. I did this with a formal event when I wore a white dress. My shoes were not that visible from my dress, so I wore those ballet slippers because I wouldn't gain height, I'd be comfortable, and they are very delicate and pretty.
Like I said, non-traditional though. Just thought I'd pass along the idea.
Its been suggested to me to wear ballet slippers too.....i haven't began looking at those yet. not sure what to make of the frumpy comment that erinfutureh makes..... i think its all about posture.
I'm getting married in November too, and every once and a while i like to practice my bridal walk. "Shoulders back, chest out, chin up!" i think thats the posture that heels force your body to have.......
Let me know what you find!!! I could use some help as well..... ;)
I decided to wear flats. I ordered these shoes (Charles David Phase from shoes.com), so we'll see how they look. I also found an awesome cheap wedding dress this weekend at Macy's for only $60! It was probably a prom dress, but it looks like it came from a bridal shop. And the hemline on it is such that I almost have to wear flats or it will look too short I think. Yeah! Cheap dress, no hemming, and comfy shoes that I will wear again!
I also am taller than the groom (although I say we're the same height). Our wedding ceremony is in June and will be outdoors so I ended up with a rhinestone flip flop that I found at Nordstrom. I couldn't find it on their website or I would have posted the link. There is also a cute one at Nine West and it's on sale!
I know these may not work depending on how formal your wedding is but I know my shoes don't even show under my dress. Plus the shoes I bought are so comfy so I will be able to dance all night! Make sure if you do look at a flip flop style that it's not too loud when you walk. I was worried about mine but they aren't very noisy. No one wants to hear the flip flop noise over the ceremony music as the bride walks down the aisle!
Since my groom is only one inch taller than me and I am dying to wear the gorgeous jimmy choo shoes i bought... I say... why can't he just wear lifts in his shoes to add some height? I'm currently looking into this option - I want to look tall on my wedding day!
I am the same hieght as my groom. (actually, I am a smidgen taller, but whenever he asks me about it, I always say it is the shoes, even if I am not wearing shoes). He has never minded that with heels on, I am taller (although his mother never shuts up about how I should always wear flats). He also says that for the wedding, he doesn't care what kind of shoes I wear (he is secure in his manhood). I was thinking of going for a kitten-heel type shoe (which is what I usually like anyway because they are so comfortable). Should I wear flats, will it look better in the photos? Should I even care about this at all?
posted by DrB 107 posts 6 months agoWell dear, I am having a similar issue. I too will be as tall or taller than my groom if I do high heels. Plus, I had these custom ivory and lace converse all stars made for the reception and I can't have my dress hemmed to go with heels or it will be dragging the floor when I put the all stars on.
This has been quite the dilemma for me. It seems like every cute shoe has at least a 2 or 3 inch heel.
So I decided to go the kitten heel route and found what I thought looked like a cute pair of shoes made by colorifics that even seemed to replicate the detail in my dress. So they came a few days ago and when I put them on, they looked like granny shoes!
Needless to say they are in a FedEx truck on their way back to the store I bought them from and I have now decided to go the flat route. I found some cute fancy shmancy sandals on Newport News' website that will work wonderfully and they are on sale for $29! I am most concerned about not looking frumpy while I walk down the aisle, because I have heard that you can look this way without heels. I think that if I am aware of how I am walking I will be ok? (I hope!)
I must add though, that my dress is Rhiannon by Mon Cheri and resembles a greek goddess type gown, so the sandals work, but maybe not for your dress?
Both the flats and the kitten heels are comfortable, I was just concerned with the look. It really depends on the shoe, but don't give up the hunt!
posted by erinfutureH 16 posts 6 months agoYou're not alone! My FI and I are approximately the same height and so shoes have been an interesting situation for me, too. I have to admit that I think it's weird if the guy is significantly shorter than the girl, so I am forgoing the pretty >1 inch heel.
If you really want a kitten heel, I'd say go for it - it probably won't make that much of a difference. If you're really worried about it, quite a few men's dress shoes have a subtle heel, which can help reduce the height difference.
Please let us know what you decide to do!
posted by missbean 131 posts 6 months agoYeah for the tall ladies! (And the not so tall guys!) I will let you know what I decide. I have a lot of time, wedding in November.
I did recently attend a wedding of our friends in which the bride is 6 ft plus, and the groom is less thsn <6 ft. She wore flats, and they looked great, but some people at the wedding were teasing them about the height thing (which they are used to and it was not mean). I guess it just got me thinking how we will look.
posted by DrB 107 posts 6 months agoAnother option that is not as traditional though, is to wear white ballet slippers. I did this with a formal event when I wore a white dress. My shoes were not that visible from my dress, so I wore those ballet slippers because I wouldn't gain height, I'd be comfortable, and they are very delicate and pretty.
Like I said, non-traditional though. Just thought I'd pass along the idea.
posted by shibaby 10 posts 6 months agohow cool that i spend an hour looking up bridal shoes 1" and under, then come to wedding bee and find this thread?
same deal for me too.....
i think i might know which shoes erinfutureh picked, bc i saw those today as well and was skeptical....
i've not completed my bio yet, but here is my page where I record the shoes I found earlier today:
http://getmarried4less.googlepages.com/accessories
Its been suggested to me to wear ballet slippers too.....i haven't began looking at those yet. not sure what to make of the frumpy comment that erinfutureh makes..... i think its all about posture.
I'm getting married in November too, and every once and a while i like to practice my bridal walk. "Shoulders back, chest out, chin up!" i think thats the posture that heels force your body to have.......
Let me know what you find!!! I could use some help as well..... ;)
posted by GetMarried4Less 403 posts 6 months agoI asked the same question a while back... I hope the responses are helpful!
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/shoes-for-a-tall-bride-and-a-short-groom
posted by Dulaman8 33 posts 6 months agoI decided to wear flats. I ordered these shoes (Charles David Phase from shoes.com), so we'll see how they look. I also found an awesome cheap wedding dress this weekend at Macy's for only $60! It was probably a prom dress, but it looks like it came from a bridal shop. And the hemline on it is such that I almost have to wear flats or it will look too short I think. Yeah! Cheap dress, no hemming, and comfy shoes that I will wear again!
posted by DrB 107 posts 6 months agoI also am taller than the groom (although I say we're the same height). Our wedding ceremony is in June and will be outdoors so I ended up with a rhinestone flip flop that I found at Nordstrom. I couldn't find it on their website or I would have posted the link. There is also a cute one at Nine West and it's on sale!
http://www.ninewest.com/n/browse/product.s?productId=2908007&source=category&index=35&prodIndex=35&listSize=94&categoryId=1059&codeName=MARCHEZR7
I know these may not work depending on how formal your wedding is but I know my shoes don't even show under my dress. Plus the shoes I bought are so comfy so I will be able to dance all night! Make sure if you do look at a flip flop style that it's not too loud when you walk. I was worried about mine but they aren't very noisy. No one wants to hear the flip flop noise over the ceremony music as the bride walks down the aisle!
posted by jpl31 12 posts 6 months agokitten heels for me & yes i'm taller too. :)
posted by futuremrsbrown 30 posts 6 months agoSince my groom is only one inch taller than me and I am dying to wear the gorgeous jimmy choo shoes i bought... I say... why can't he just wear lifts in his shoes to add some height? I'm currently looking into this option - I want to look tall on my wedding day!
posted by skaterliz 4 posts 6 months agoI think it is ok for the bride to be taller. Wear your awesome Jimmy Choos!
posted by DrB 107 posts 6 months ago