(Closed) shoes: to match or not to match?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: should i have my girls buy matching shoes?
    yes, it will look weird if they have the same dress/accessories and different shoes : (4 votes)
    15 %
    no, it will look cool to have variety in footwear! : (21 votes)
    81 %
    other... i'll explain below. : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I would say let them whatever shoes they want that is comfortable for them…maybe tell them a nude or neutral color, but whatever style that they like.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Please don’t make these girls buy matching shoes too!  I always hated having to get all matching shoes when I stood up in weddings.  I agree, silver or nude shoes would look great with this dress. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    It’s a personal preference but I think it looks weird when bridal parties are super matchy. Also, no one will notice their shoes so i think it’s a waste to make them buy shoes they may or may not like.

    Post # 7
    Member
    11352 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I would give your maids some clear specificiations and then allow each to choose a shoe that fits within those specs but that is appealing to and comfortable for each individual.

    My bridal party wore matching dresses and accessories, and I asked each member to purchase a silver sandal that met these qualificiations:

    It could not be a flat. 

    It  needed to have some sort of heel between one and four inches, whatever each of their specific tastes would be. 

    The shoes could not have platform soles, and I did not want the shoe to make a “slapping” sound when the person walked. 

    Other than this, it was up to each person to find a shoe that would work. They all did exactly what I asked, and everything looked great!

    Post # 8
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    9400 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would just give them a color you want for the shoes, and let them get whichever shoes they want.  Even if they do have to buy shoes at least they can pick out something they will wear again.  I had to get matching gold shoes for a friends and since I don’t wear heels normally I have never worn them again.  If I had been able to get flats at least I would wear them again!

    Post # 9
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    2674 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

    Mismatched shoes in a designated colour is my recommendation. My BMs had matching dresses and I told that I wanted them to wear some sort of black heels with their dresses. I’ve seen matching dresses and mismatched shoes at a few weddings now and I really like how it keeps them all from looking like clones.

    I think silver would be lovely with those dresses.

    Post # 10
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    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My bridesmaid dresses are similar to yours – as I have 5 bridesmaids I decided buying them matching ones (I’m in the UK so will buy all the bridesmaids’ outfits) would be too hard to find one that they would all find comfortable.  So I have given them some guidelines and some cash for their own nude court shoes.  They can hopefully then all be happy with the shoes and will choose something they will wear again.

    Post # 11
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    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I let my BMs pick.  I just asked for silver.  I let them pick their own dresses too (within a certain line and fabric so it would be the same color), but both picked the same dress (my favorite).  But they picked their own shoes, jewelry, hairstyles, etc.

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