Post # 1
my BMs all ordered their dresses a few weeks ago. i gave them the choice of several styles but they somehow all wound up picking the same dress. we halso have 2 female attendents on the grooms side and they picked the same dress from the choices i gave them…
I had always thought the BP would be mismatched and planned to let people buy any silver shoes they wanted/wear what they had, but now i am starting to wonder if that will look strange since they have the same dress and will have the same necklace as well.
for reference, these are the dresses. first the BM dress:
groomswomen dress (in blue):
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I would say let them whatever shoes they want that is comfortable for them…maybe tell them a nude or neutral color, but whatever style that they like.
Post # 4
Please don’t make these girls buy matching shoes too! I always hated having to get all matching shoes when I stood up in weddings. I agree, silver or nude shoes would look great with this dress.
Post # 5
It’s a personal preference but I think it looks weird when bridal parties are super matchy. Also, no one will notice their shoes so i think it’s a waste to make them buy shoes they may or may not like.
Post # 6
@Lily_of_the_valley: i’ve always hated it too… the last shoes i was made to buy for a wedding were thrown in the trash by the end of the reception because they were torture devices. i am just worried with the same dresses different shoes will look weird. glad to see a few people dont think so!
Post # 7
I would give your maids some clear specificiations and then allow each to choose a shoe that fits within those specs but that is appealing to and comfortable for each individual.
My bridal party wore matching dresses and accessories, and I asked each member to purchase a silver sandal that met these qualificiations:
It could not be a flat.
It needed to have some sort of heel between one and four inches, whatever each of their specific tastes would be.
The shoes could not have platform soles, and I did not want the shoe to make a “slapping” sound when the person walked.
Other than this, it was up to each person to find a shoe that would work. They all did exactly what I asked, and everything looked great!
Post # 8
I would just give them a color you want for the shoes, and let them get whichever shoes they want. Even if they do have to buy shoes at least they can pick out something they will wear again. I had to get matching gold shoes for a friends and since I don’t wear heels normally I have never worn them again. If I had been able to get flats at least I would wear them again!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
Mismatched shoes in a designated colour is my recommendation. My BMs had matching dresses and I told that I wanted them to wear some sort of black heels with their dresses. I’ve seen matching dresses and mismatched shoes at a few weddings now and I really like how it keeps them all from looking like clones.
I think silver would be lovely with those dresses.
Post # 10
My bridesmaid dresses are similar to yours – as I have 5 bridesmaids I decided buying them matching ones (I’m in the UK so will buy all the bridesmaids’ outfits) would be too hard to find one that they would all find comfortable. So I have given them some guidelines and some cash for their own nude court shoes. They can hopefully then all be happy with the shoes and will choose something they will wear again.
Post # 11
I let my BMs pick. I just asked for silver. I let them pick their own dresses too (within a certain line and fabric so it would be the same color), but both picked the same dress (my favorite). But they picked their own shoes, jewelry, hairstyles, etc.