Short Bride Dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Shoes
Post # 2
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have the same problem. i’m 5ft my FI is 5’9 the best man and pastor are 6’4 and my maid of honor is 6ft. Our Jr groomsman is taller than me too. the way I see it is i’ve been short all my life that’s not about to change. there is no way i’m going to be uncomfortable in heels just because everyone is a foot taller than me. it’s just the way it’ll always be. I wouldn’t worry about it. i think i’m wearing comfortable slippers. i have a ballgown dress so no one will be able to see my feet. comfy it is.

Post # 3
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014


making_melodies:  maybe wear 4″ or 5″ heels for your ceremony, then kick them off or switch to flats for your reception. Dillard’s has good quality shoes that often go on big time clearance.

Post # 4
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I had the same dilemma. I’m 5′ tall, my husband is 6’3″ his best man is about the same height and my maid of honor is 5’6″. I wore 6″ heels for the ceremony and the were very comfortable because they had a 2″ platform. I was planning to change into a different pair but I ended up wearing them all day and night. There is nothing wrong with flats but if it’s height you’re worried about, there is some great platforms out there. Here is a photo of mine. 

Post # 5
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

making_melodies:  I’m 5’1 on a good day, so I completely understand how you feel. I agree with what Sunshineliz22 said though. I know there’s nothing I can do to change my height, and I would not be able to walk, or be comfortable in anything higher than 3″ heels.

I’ve heard a lot of good things about Nina brand shoes comfort wise.  I’ve never tried them, but I do like that they come in an array of colors and heel heights, and are affordable.

Post # 6
6171 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


making_melodies:  don’t be something you are not, and be comfortable.

i am also 5 feet even, DH is 5’11”.  my BMs are 5’3″ -5’5″, groomsmen were 5’6″ – 6 feet.

i wore heels that i was able to dance in all night.  i got them at the nordstrom sale last summer for $49, they were a 2 1/2 inch heel.

but if you want to wear flats, wear flats.

the most important thing is to be comfortable.

Post # 7
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you wear 5″ heels as recommended by a pp, then switch to flats, your dress is going to be dragging all over the floor and you are likely to trip on it. Find some mid-height heels that are comfortable so you can wear them most of the night.

Everyone knows you are short. It is what they expect to see. Your photographer will know how to pose your wedding party so you get some great pics.

Post # 8
744 posts
Busy bee

I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where the bride was 5 feet tall as well, and she hates wearing heels, so she wasn’t going to wear them on her wedding day.  The bridal party wasn’t particularly tall, but we’re all taller than her and wore heels.  I don’t think anyone thought twice about it.  Everyone knows she’s short anyway and never wears heels, so she wouldn’t have been fooling anyone in 5″ heels!  She looked like a gorgeous bride and not a 12-year-old 🙂  So I think you should just go with what you feel good in and not worry too much about the height.

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