(Closed) Short Courtships!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did!  We dated about six months before getting engaged and were engaged about five months.

The funny part is that we got zero backlash.  None.  In fact, we had a lot of people surprised it took as long as it did for us to get married. 

We had been friends for years, lost touch, and then reconnected.  We became much closer friends after reconnecting.  About a year into our reestablished friendship, he asked me out and made it clear it was a “date.”  I hesitated because I didn’t want to perhaps ruin a friendship with a man who was becoming my closest friend, but everyone I knew told me to go for it.  I had mutual acquaintances randomly running into me and telling me they thought Mr. Neva and I should date. 

So we went out on a “date.”  And it was amazing.  I saw a whole new side of him.  I don’t think either of us had any doubts after that.

Post # 5
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3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Well, five minutes after we met, we were finishing each others’ sentences. That was a pretty sure sign that something was right, for us. Besides that, we just clicked–got along well, had similar interests and values but enough differences to keep things interesting. I thought the “soul mate” thing was absolute crap until I met DH.

We got engaged after four months. Some people were skeptical and/or worried, but it all worked out for the best. Plus, we had a long (almost two-year) engagement.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We got engaged after 11 months of dating, but here’s the kicker….10 of those months he was deployed. We did know eachother for about 3ish years before we started dating, so it’s not like we were strangers.  It’s always funny to think about…It literally went like this:  1st date on Monday, 2nd date on Tuesday, Wednesday his leave was up and he was back to Iraq.

There definitely wasn’t any backlash from anyone, more so happiness.  I think they’re were some very surprised people because no one really understood how serious we had gotten.  I tend to keep relationships private and not talk about them, so I can see why people were surprised.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

We went to look at rings about a month after dating, so we knew early on… But we’re at 1.5 years now and I’m still waiting!

Both of our families have known for over a year that we plan on getting married. All our friends will be over the moon when he finally does it! I think they might have been a little taken aback if we had rushed into things b/c we’d both just gotten out of serious relationships. But now, coming up on 2 years together… it’s time.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

we knew by about the third date. We had been best friends for two years and he had been

tryin to convince  me we should be together for at least the last year. When I did decide to give it a chance, we knew it was all or nothing. We were officially engaged at about five months. But we are having the never ending engagement lol

His family is not thrilled about it but will get over it. My family was not even surprised. I think they saw it coming.

Post # 9
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1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@smiley3:  Aww, thanks.  I am very blessed.  I married my best friend.

I think sometimes you just know.  I was married before and I didn’t *know* like I did this time.  If I knew back then what it felt like to know for sure, I’d have saved myself a LOT of trouble.  Sigh.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

We got engaged 2 days ago, and we’ve been together almost 9 months. We knew about a month in that we wanted to spend our lives together. We will be engaged for just over a year, so we will have been together almost 2 years when we get married.

Unlike a lot of other short courtship couples that I know IRL, we haven’t known each other for years. I met my FI 11 months ago.

ETA: We haven’t gotten any back-lash about the length of our relationship. In fact, my dad and a few friends have been bugging us since October about when we’re getting married.

Post # 11
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my hubby and i were good friends for over a year before we became a couple. 

from couple to talking marriage was about 2 weeks. from couple to ring on my hand was less than 8mths (would have been sooner but the ring had to be made) and engaged to married was less than 6 months

no backlash, no comments, no questioning – people were expecting it i think 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hubby and I were friends for about 9 months before we became a couple, then 4 months later he proposed, and 5 months after that we were married. It certainly happened quickly, but we wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂

To answer the original questions…

We didn’t face any backlash or criticism for how quickly everything happened; the only “negative” comments that arose had to do with our age. Those comments both irritated and amused me because they always came from people that were neither family nor friends. People who didn’t know anything about us, our situation, our beliefs, etc; I learned to let them go, and I received nothing but support and encouragement from the people that mattered.

As far as knowing that “this was it”…I don’t know how to put it into words. Everyone says that when you know, you know. I completely agree with that. I had no doubts that it was just MINE; my time, the right man for me, etc.

Post # 13
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755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We dated for 10 months before getting engaged. I didn’t get any but he got a lot. His parents weren’t thrilled, for one I’m a lot younger than him, second his friend thought we were going in too soon.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we had been together 6 months when we got engaged. there was definitely backlash from my parents, but my dad basically just accepted it and my mom got excited once we started planning. we’ll have been engaged 1.5 years, so 2 years and 2 days after we met.

when you know, you KNOW.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

We dated almost 7 months before getting engaged and I definitely find myself justifying it to people all the time! Especially since our engagement will be only 3 months. But to be fair, we’ve been friends for almost 9 years. When you know, you know!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow.  I’m really surprised by how many of us were friends for a long time before dating.  Maybe that has something to do with it?

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