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    CinnamonStick    May 14, 2010   Gettysburg, PA

    For various reasons, my fiance and I have decided to set our date for May 14th, 2010! This is only 6 months after our engagement, which causes a bit of a rush in the planning area. We've always planned to keep it simple and casual, as thats just our style, but at this point, there's closer to 5 months left and I'm a little worried about it all getting done! Has anyone else had a short engagement or is currently planning on having a short one? What sort of tips are out there for getting everything done on time (while still not breaking the bank?)

     
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    mizrunzou    June 26, 2010   Kansas City, MO

    One of my good friends got married after me, and she is already married, they were engaged almost exactly 6 mo.  I think they ended up having to ask the rents for more money than they had planned, but it turned out lovely.

    I'd just say: prepare not to get your 1st choice for everything!

     
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    Jesso    May 2, 2009  

    i got engaged on Christmas 2008 and married May 2009...definitely a short engagement by today's standards (4 months)!  it was a lot of work to pull off the wedding, but honestly it wasnt THAT difficult...i got lucky with a bunch of vendors (my date was the only one they had free for the whole spring/summer).  i was prepared to compromise a few things, but really in the end i didnt feel like i compromised anything (and our wedding wasnt really that simple or casual...not sure that makes it easier in your case, but maybe!  you can hope!  ;-)  personally i am happy not to have had a super long engagement. good luck with your planning--enjoy it!!

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    Congratulations on your engagement! You can definitely get it done, you just need to make decisive choices! :)

    I wish I had a short engagement! By the time we marry we'll have been engaged 1.5 years-- waaaaay too long. I think 6 months is just enough time to plan a perfect wedding!

     
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    CLER    May 28, 2010   San Francisco Bay Area

    we're getting married end of May and only have 6 months to plan.  It's our 5th month and we're not that stressed.  My sister just got married last November, and it took her less than 3 months to plan with our help.  I actually like short engagement because you're able to keep it simple.  I know some folks who have long engagement and with so many ideas coming in, they add it to their wedding.  Too much stress I think. 

     
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    ClairDarling    August 14, 2010   San Diego

    Thats not too short at all!  My best friend did her wedding in under three months - totally doable, plus she was planning from out of state.  She just told me that her coordinator finally got pictures up on her blog, so you can see what they were able to acomplish is only three months.

    http://www.moiraevents.com/blog/ 

    her wedding is the first couple posts...

     

     
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    Mego    May 1, 2010   Lancaster, Pa

    i got engaged on 11.28.09 and im getting married the 1st of may 2010. i feel like the timeline is just long enough to get everything done.

    i really didnt want a crazy expensive extravagent wedding. it will be an elegant, classy affair, but within reason.

    i wouldnt want to wait any longer!

     
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    Our engagement will be 7 months and I have found my dress, picked the venue, found a dj, photographer and I still have 5 months to go. Just yesterday I was asking myself why do people need a year + to plan a wedding. I must be missing something. So far so good.

     
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    Ms. Purple    May 22, 2010   Toronto, Ontario

    I absolutely agree with everyone that its all definitely do able.  We were engaged Dec. 09 and we'll be married May 2010.  The one thing that i've followed (which my fiancee taught me) was not to boggle yourself with too many choices.  We only saw three venues, i only tried on maybe 12 dresses, etc.  i find the more choices you give yourself the harder it is to make a decision.

    also be open minded and don't set your heart on one thing!  and remember to have fun! :-)

     
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    maisymay    December 19, 2009   morgan hill, ca

    I have 2 sets of friends who each had a 10 week engagement. It was a lot of work, but they were able to get everything done. They did need a bunch of outside help, but the weddings were great. One even had 300+ guests for the ceremony, a cake and punch reception, and an additional private reception for about 160.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    I have several friends who planned a wedding in less than 6 months, so you can do it. Just stay calm, make some good lists (or buy The Knot Book of Lists...love it!). Be efficient...you may not have as much time to look around as you'd like. And trust your gut! So far, my gut has been right about every.single.thing. But I've forced myself to keep looking to be "safe" and have always come back to my gut favorite. :) Good luck!

     
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    lindsaylee13    May 21, 2010   Lafayette, Indiana

    Hooray for you! I am sure you will be able to pull off a beautiful wedding with the time you have left. I got engaged on December 19, 2009, and we are getting married May 21, 2010...72 days away already!! I am also a senior in college and getting ready to move to Indianapolis, start a new job, etc...but really, it has not been that bad. I suppose it is all what you make out of it, and sometimes you just get lucky with vendors and whatnot. I can definitely say that we got lucky with some of our top choices for vendors...and my FI's sister is a culinary student and specializes in pastries so she's making our cake, and I'm into graphic design so I'm doing all that stuff...so really, just utilize what you have around you and sometimes it's better when you have a short timeframe because it just makes you decide on things faster, haha. 

    I think the most stress that has come at this point is getting wedding showers scheduled with my friends and family and my FI's family, because they all want showers but there are too few open weekends between now and the wedding! I'm also graduating from Purdue the week before I get married! Are we crazy? Nah....haha

     
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    CinnamonStick    May 14, 2010   Gettysburg, PA

    @lindsay: Your situation sounds so much like mine, actually! Our graduations (both the FI and myself) are also the week before the wedding and we're getting ready to move post graduation- either to Washington State or to Japan... depending on if I get the job I applied for! Its all really exciting, but stressful too!

     
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    lindsaylee13    May 21, 2010   Lafayette, Indiana

    That's awesome! Now that its less than 2 months away...51 days now...I'm just so ready to be done with school and get on with our lives! Haha...that's pretty awesome about the move - I hope you get that settled soon so you can look for housing! That's the situation we are in right now, just trying to find time to look for an apartment. Wedding plans are coming together and invitations were just sent last week...and I just want school to be over now. Haha.

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    I think short engagements are awesome! So much less time to worry about everything. I always say that one of my biggest wedding-related regrets is having a long engagement!

     

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