Short engagement

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
4043 posts
Honey bee

@katherin788:  My DH and I were together for 10 years before getting married and while I was very ready to get married, we had a 10 month engagement. I was happy with that length for the following reasons:

  • We were able to book our venue without major concerns
  • Our photographer still had plenty of open dates
  • We could save a little more
  • We could give guests ample notice to make travel arrangements

Just some things to keep in mind when considering a short enagement that may cause a little more stress or difficulty when planning.

I would encourage you to lock down some of the things I mentioned above first to be certain everything is good to go 🙂

Post # 4
1552 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We planned ours in 3 months. To be exact we had 100 days from when we got engaged and when we got married. We’d also been together a long time, and didn’t want to be planning for a year. We ended up getting married on our anniversary.


We didn’t run into any problems, but we were also fairly flexible.

Post # 7
5815 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@katherin788:  smaller wedding is easier than a larger wedding. You can be more flexible with locations, like have it in a restaurant banquet room. We had 50 people at a 5 star resaurant and the ceremony on their patio. Also think about a lunch instead of dinner. 

Post # 8
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Definitely possible. We were planning on having a destination wedding in May but got a call last week that the resort has been bought out and will be undergoing renos so our wedding is cancelled.  We decided to re-plan the wedding in January.  We’re two months out and almost everything is booked and ready to go.  Luckily for us, it is extremely cold in Edmonton in January so it’s not a particularly busy wedding month :).

Post # 9
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’re having a long engagement, but we had the bulk of our wedding planning done before the end of the 2nd month. Since you are looking at short notice, you’ll find that the more flexible you are with your vendor choices,  the easier it’ll be for you. I agree with PP that the first I’d try to book would be ceremony space, officiant, reception space, photographer,  and flowers. Everything else tend to be less competitive to book. 

Post # 10
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Flexibility is going to be key if you want to get married on short notice…

And as @KoiKove: a lot easier to plan if you are going with a small Guest List, and also by not going for the most difficult to book timeframes (if Off Season vs Summer, and not a Holiday Weekend etc)

Mr TTR & I got Engaged in April on Vacation, got my Ring in June, and then announced our Engagement… just a little more than 6 months from our chosen Wedding Day over the Christmas Holidays

BUT we’d already made some important determinations… as Encores we knew we wanted to Elope just the 2 of us and Marry in a Destination Wedding on a Beach… over the Christmas Holidays.

We didn’t have too many issues cause it was just the 2 of us when it came to Wedding Planning other than finding a workable Date and an Officiant, but because we were on vacation we were super flexible about the Date… so going for a Weekday was an easy fix on that front (we had to give up our original plan of getting Married on Christmas Eve, cause it wasn’t workable / practical)

The only other major issue I ran into was finding a Dress.  Most Dress Salons want months and months of advance notice… 6 to 12 is the norm.

I didn’t have that… when you take into consideration alterations etc.  So I had to buy off the rack that made things a lot more difficult.  So you’ll want to be aware of that.

(In the end if there was ONE thing I could change about My Wedding it would be the Dress… in reality I settled… I wish I had not done that… but I did.  It just seemed easier at the time.  IF I was to do it all over again, I would have a longer lead time, so I could actually get the dress of my dreams… which BTW I had all picked out on a Bridal Website).

The rest was awesome !!

No Regrets.

But then again as I said, there were just the 2 of us… and a Back Home Reception Party after our Honeymoon… which was also very low key.

If I was going to be planning a Traditional Big White Pouffy Family Wedding (like I had the first time, with 100+ Guests) I would certainly want a longer lead time.  My First Wedding I was Engaged for a Year before getting Married, and that seems just about right for that type of Wedding.

Hope this helps,


Post # 11
5815 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@This Time Round: Depends on where you buy your dress. I was told by David’s Bridal that it would take 3+months to get my dress in. I had it in 10 days. So if you go with David’s or Alfred Angelo, just ask them to check the warehouse. Often they will have it in stock.

Post # 12
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @KoiKove:  True enough.  Unfortunately, David’s Bridal isn’t well established yet in Canada… just a few stores across the Country.  So when I was looking I was mostly doing Independent Bridal Stores here (I don’t think there are any Canadian Chain Bridal Stores) and some stores in the US.  And even that was problematic cause of bringing things back to Canada (Taxes & Duty).

Getting something off the rack really was my only alternative.

And that certainly limited my choices (and my enthusiasm) I am afraid.


Post # 13
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

we went from 1.5 years to plan to haveing 40 days to plan . my dress needed 3 months for the shop to get it so lucky i did that 3 months ago as my dress is in next week. weo have a pastor to marry us food and drink our venue is in the works and its been two days since we changed the date 

Post # 14
1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We’re also planning on a very short engagement so I’m looking at things ahead of time (before we’re officially engaged) – I know it’s a bit out of the ordinary but hey, it makes sense to know what’s out there, right? We’re serious about this with a ring or without one.

I have narrowed down our choice of venue to 2 places (maybe 3 – one is more of a backup plan) and then we’ll just pick one that’s free on our desired date or move the date around a little if that makes more sense. I’ve also determined the style of dress I want and made a framework guest list. I agree with the others, a smaller wedding is a lot more flexible (we’re looking at 40-50 people). 

So there are definitely things you can do in advance and for those that you can’t, it’s just a question of being organised and realistic with your expectations. I know a girl who pushed her wedding from October to May because she found out she was pregnant, giving her about 2 months to plan everything and it worked out perfectly. 

Post # 16
2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Our engagement was just short of 4 months, and I would have gone nuts if it had been any longer.  The whole thing was planned in less than a month, and I got every vendor I wanted.

We had a relatively small wedding (80 guests), and chose a morning ceremony and brunch reception.  We got a great deal on a very expensive venue because although it was a Saturday, we chose an “off” time.

I got my dress from a local shop, and they told me I had to pay a rush fee to get it in on time (it needed some alterations), so I paid it.  Then the dress was there in less than a month!

Short engagements are the way to go – who cares about being engaged?  I wanted to be married! 🙂

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