Post # 1
My fiance proposed on Oct 12th this year and we have set our date for April 2nd, 2015! That means our engagement is now 5 months away and we just took engagement photos a couple of days ago. We should have the pictures back and printed as save the date announcements within the next 2 weeks. At that point, we’ll be 4.5 months away. If I send them immediately, we’ll still be sending out invitations like a month or so later to allow guests to officially make plans to come to the wedding. It seems like a waste of time and money (stamps, addressing double evelopes, etc) to do it this way vs. just sending them at the same time in a couple of months. Is that “acceptable” or is it some big no no?
Post # 2
I am not a wedding expert so I don’t know if this isn’t how things are done but why would you have a STD if you are sending out invites at the same time?
Post # 3
There’s no point to send a STD and invite at the same time. But your invites don’t get sent until 6-8 weeks before the wedding so if you send STDs now you won’t be sending the invite until mid February anyway. That gives you 3.5 months.
Post # 4
Just skip the save the dates and only send out invitations. STD’s aren’t a requirement and a ton of people skip them – it would be silly and a waste for you to send them out now and then send out inviations a month later.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Unless you have reason to believe that your guests are likely to make plans far in advance for the beginning of April that would conflict with your wedding, STDs are not even necessary.
Post # 6
vikabug: Skip the save the dates or send them out once you receive them. They are totally pointless if you’re going to send them with the invitation. The invitation will have the date on it already. Also, invitations are sent 6-8 weeks in advance. Next month is too early for invitations for a wedding in April.
Post # 7
I think the invitations are all you need. STDs aren’t a necessity, and certainly not in a situation like this. The STD would basically serve no purpose.
Post # 8
Do you have a bunch of out of town guests? You don’t actually have to send out STDs at all, as long as you send the invitations out enough in advance. If you’re set on sending out STDs, send those as soon as you get them and then send out invites in Feb.
Post # 9
Save the dates are only really useful (but still not even necessary) if you’re wedding is further in the future and/or you have lots of out of town guests. Our wedding was just under a year from our engagement and we had lots of out of town guests, and even we just sent the invitations a little earlier.
Post # 10
Definitely do NOT send STDs at the same time as the invitation, that defeats the purpose and will just look silly! If you’ve already printed them, go ahead and send them once they arrive. Their sole purpose is to say “an invitation is coming!” (helpful for out-of-town guests, or guests who need to request time off form work far in advance). This is also why it’d be silly to send them at the same time as the invitations, since they give you a heads-up that an invite is coming and if they get an invite at the same time they’ll just be confused 🙂 Your invites shouldn’t go out until 6-8 weeks before the wedding, so you’ve got plenty of gap time in between them! Also: the STDs should ONLY go to people who are invited to the wedding, so an STD allows people to officially start planning to attend (they don’t need the invite to know they are invited, that’s what the STD does).
Post # 12
We were wanting to send save the dates mostly so that our guests (mostly family and very close friends) would have a photo from our engagement shoot. So maybe we’ll incude a print with our names at the bottom but not make it an actual save the date and just include it with the invite? Or is that still weird? And I know invites are often sent out about 6-8 wks beforehand but I wanted to give people plenty of notice since our wedding is on a Thursday and that alone means people will really need to make plans ahead of time. On top of that, it’s the Thursday right before Good Friday and Easter weekend (AND PASSOVER! Fiance and his family are Jewish). Again, maybe I’m completely wrong on this…
Post # 13
vikabug: It might just be me but unless it was my child I wouldn’t want one of your engagement photos, family or not. Just something to consider before spending the money.
Post # 14
j_jaye: +1 I’d end up tossing the pic with the invite after the wedding. Don’t waste your money.
Edit: Like everyone said you don’t need the STDs but if you decide to do them you would send the invites 6-8 weeks before. That’s what the STD is for, so people save the date. Why would you send the invites 4 months early too?
Post # 15
No one needs your engagement photos. Just send the invitations.
Post # 16
No need for save the dates. Just send invites 🙂 and don’t worry about including engagement photos – perhaps save them for Christmas gifts foa parents and grandparents only?