Short engagement – can we send Save the Dates and invitations at the same time?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

I am not a wedding expert so I don’t  know if this isn’t  how things are done but why would you have a STD if you are sending out invites at the same time?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

There’s no point to send a STD and invite at the same time. But your invites don’t get sent until 6-8 weeks before the wedding so if you send STDs now you won’t be sending the invite until mid February anyway. That gives you 3.5 months. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Just skip the save the dates and only send out invitations. STD’s aren’t a requirement and a ton of people skip them – it would be silly and a waste for you to send them out now and then send out inviations a month later. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Unless you have reason to believe that your guests are likely to make plans far in advance for the beginning of April that would conflict with your wedding, STDs are not even necessary.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

vikabug:  Skip the save the dates or send them out once you receive them. They are totally pointless if you’re going to send them with the invitation. The invitation will have the date on it already. Also, invitations are sent 6-8 weeks in advance. Next month is too early for invitations for a wedding in April. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I think the invitations are all you need. STDs aren’t a necessity, and certainly not in a situation like this. The STD would basically serve no purpose. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Do you have a bunch of out of town guests? You don’t actually have to send out STDs at all, as long as you send the invitations out enough in advance. If you’re set on sending out STDs, send those as soon as you get them and then send out invites in Feb.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Save the dates are only really useful (but still not even necessary) if you’re wedding is further in the future and/or you have lots of out of town guests. Our wedding was just under a year from our engagement and we had lots of out of town guests, and even we just sent the invitations a little earlier. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Definitely do NOT send STDs at the same time as the invitation, that defeats the purpose and will just look silly! If you’ve already printed them, go ahead and send them once they arrive. Their sole purpose is to say “an invitation is coming!” (helpful for out-of-town guests, or guests who need to request time off form work far in advance). This is also why it’d be silly to send them at the same time as the invitations, since they give you a heads-up that an invite is coming and if they get an invite at the same time they’ll just be confused 🙂 Your invites shouldn’t go out until 6-8 weeks before the wedding, so you’ve got plenty of gap time in between them! Also: the STDs should ONLY go to people who are invited to the wedding, so an STD allows people to officially start planning to attend (they don’t need the invite to know they are invited, that’s what the STD does). 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

vikabug:  It might just be me but unless it was my child I wouldn’t want one of your engagement photos, family or not. Just something to consider before spending the money.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

j_jaye:  +1 I’d end up tossing the pic with the invite after the wedding. Don’t waste your money. 

Edit: Like everyone said you don’t need the STDs but if you decide to do them you would send the invites 6-8 weeks before. That’s what the STD is for, so people save the date. Why would you send the invites 4 months early too?

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  Curlycupcake.
  • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  Curlycupcake.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No one needs your engagement photos. Just send the invitations. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

No need for save the dates. Just send invites 🙂 and don’t worry about including engagement photos – perhaps save them for Christmas gifts foa parents and grandparents only? 

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