Short & Sweet Ceremony – I Need Inspiration! Tell me about yours!

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Newbee

I’m getting married April 5th (getting so close!) and I wrote pretty much the whole ceremony myself, as we are having a friend do it for us. Ours is short and sweet as well, and non-religious.

 

This is the short intro we are doing at the begining:

 

“Dear friends and family, we are gathered here today to witness and celebrate
the union of *** and **** in marriage.
In the years that they have been together, their love and understanding of each other
has grown and matured, and now they have decided to live their lives
together as husband and wife.”

“True marriage is the union of two hearts. It lives on the love you give each other
and never grows old, but thrives on the joy of each new day.
Marriage is love. May you always be able to talk things over,
to confide in each other, to laugh with each other, to enjoy life together,
and to share moments of quiet and peace when the day is done.
May you be blessed with a lifetime of happiness and a home of warmth and understanding.”

“Let’s please have a moment of silence so that those who would like to may say a prayer
for the bride and groom.”

 

Then we are saying our vows (repeating after officiant).

Then exchanging rings.

Then the kiss. Then the processional.

 

I hope that it wont be too short, but I can imagine all that might take about 15 to 20 minutes with everyone walking up and down the aisle.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I made a post with our ceremony text, since when we were writing it, seeing posts like that on WB and elsewhere was really helpful.  I

t was maybe 20 minutes long, seemed like a good mix of light-heartedness and seriousness, and the guests were all really engaged… laughing, smiling, and crying.  We didn’t have any unity ceremonies, readings, biblical / religious stuff, etc.  A mix of traditional and personal vows.  We had a good friend get ordained for us – he does theater acting (so he’s comfortable speaking in public) and is super funny, so he was great at it.

Here’s the link: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-unplugged-unreligious-self-written-but-slightly-traditional-ceremony-script#axzz2ujyop1p4

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ours was very informal since we had done the legal bit a few months before due to immigration. We wanted to actually say meaningful vows to each other and celebrate with friends and family since we’re both expats and my and DH’s families live on opposite ends of the earth.  One of our friends officiated and he rocked it.

We wanted everyone to come to the venue and be served champagne/drinks as soon as they walked in. We let them mingle for 10 minutes to allow for lateness.

Then our friend intro’d himself then got the out of towners to raise their hands and the new yorkers to raise their hands and introduce themsleves to each other before the ceremony (we wanted guests to meet and mingle.) He gave a 5 min. warning and instructed everyone to form an aisle (we had chairs lined up for the older people.)

Once I had walked down the aisle he did the intro (“gathered here to celebrate the marriage of…”) and for kicks did the “does anyone object.” (Everyone knew we were legally married so we were having fun with it.) If someone had, he was going to say “Good, because from what I know about these two, they wouldn’t listen anyway.”

Then we started the first part of our vows which we wrote ourselves. They were mostly humorous eg. DH promised to make me coffee every morning and that our home would always have space for my shoes, I promised to tolerate his smelly gym gear and endure cold climates so he could ski.

Then our friend told a funny story about how our relationship started and grew and how he got to see it (we all used to work together).

Then we exchanged rings and said the last (more serious) part of our vows:

“You inspire me.
You’re my best friend and the love of my life.
I’ll be your travel buddy.
Whatever you want to do in life, I’ll support you.
I’ll help you be the best you can be, and to live your dreams.
I love you just as you are, and everything you could become.

I’ll be there for you through thick and thin, for better and worse,
sickness and health, and maybe some shopping. But not too much shopping. (that was DH’s line, in mine I said I’d be his personal shopper.)

I’m looking forward to sharing years of fun and adventure, and to
becoming grumpy old people together.”

We exchanged rings, then he said:
“I am honoured to present you Mr & Mrs CanuckandaKiwi.” and asked everyone to raise a glass for a toast.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

 

I’m “writing” our ceremony. Not from scratch, but I found bits and pieces from various sources that I put together. We want a short and sweet ceremony (10 minutes). 

The outline is basically:

Presentation of couple (or giving of the bride)

Reading 1

Declaration of support

Vows

Rings

Reading 2

Pronouncement

 

 

Fortunately the weddingbee and internet have a lot of great sources for inspiration. I picked the readings I did b/c when I read them I cried, they spoke to me (*uh hum* spoke to us).

Union by Robert Fulghum

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world –

This is my husband. This is my wife.

 

The Wonders of Today by Larry Chengges

If you can always be as close

 and happy as today,

 Yet be secure enough to grow

 and change along the way…

If you can keep for you alone

 your love as man and wife.

 yet find the time to share your joy,

 with others in your life….

If you can be as one,

 and walk through marriage hand in hand,

 yet still support the goals and dreams

 that each of you have planned…

If you can dare to always go

 your separate ways together

 Then all the wonders of today

 will stay with you forever…

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MrsPhilly:  Commenting to follow – my dad is doing our ceremony and we want to write the whole thing ourselves to make it as easy on him as possible.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If you’re looking for a nice reading were using “Union” by Robert Fulghum.  I think it’s so pretty and appropriate but not overdone. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I’m not big into the candle/sand ceremonies either. I don’t think a ceremony has to last forever anyway. We’re having a typical Christian ceremony With traditional vows. We told our officiant if there’s anything he wants to say on his own he can. I’ll just walk down the aisle, our officiant will speak, we say our vows and then we walk back down the aisle. Simple yet sweet. 🙂 

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