Post # 1
Ugh, I wrote an entire post and then the site wouldn’t let me upload it… But here goes (again)!
So I’m stepping out of lurk-hood because I’ve been struggling with this for a while now and since you’re all such wonderful and supportive ladies (and gentlemen?) I decided to give it a go.
My fiancé and I are getting married on November 7th, 2014. We are planning a fuss-free, rather budget-friendly celebration which will consist of our civil wedding (no church ceremony since we are not religious) followed by a nice meal and a big party with friends and family.
Since the entire atmosphere of our wedding will be relaxed and casual, I don’t think wearing an all-out wedding gown will look right. I have seen a couple of simple dressed which I really liked, but right now I’m leaning more towards a 1960s type of look with a short dress and maybe a nice cream-coloured coat to go with it (as it’ll definitely be cold anyway), and maybe a small hat or headpiece with a blush. I have it all figured out in my head, but now most of my friends and co-workers keep telling me I should go for a long dress, since my wedding day will most likely be the only occasion at which I can get away with wearing a gown like that and you do only get married once. They say I might regret not going for a long dress afterwards.
My gut tells me I won’t regret it, since I’m a very pragmatic kind of person to begin with, and because I really want to be able to dance and move around freely on my wedding day. I don’t want to need my maid of honour when I need to go to the loo, I don’t want to worry about stepping on my dress while dancing.
Are any of you planning on getting married in a short dress and what are your thoughts? Or have any of you actually gotten married in a short dress and regretting your decision now?
Thanks a lot & rock on, this is an awesome community!
Post # 3
My original dress was a tea length dress, it was so beautiful, but it was unfortunately ruined by a horrible seamstress. I had to buy another dress. I bought a full length gown. I regret that I DIDN’T get to wear my tea length dress. I’m still pissed, 3 years later, at that worthless no talent hack that ruined my beautiful dream dress.
Post # 4
I bought a short wedding dress, it’s amazing and I’d wear it everyday if I could!! I haven’t gotten married yet (October!!) but I would never forgive myself if I caved and bought a long dress. It’s not what I want, and it’s not me. I’ve had multiple people question why I’m not getting a long dress (mainly coworkers/strangers), my instinct makes me want to say “eff you, it’s none of your business what I do/why do you care so much.” But instead I politely say “because this is the most amazing dress I’ve ever seen and everything I wanted in a dress so it’s perfect for me…” People tend to leave me alone after that. Go with what you want and how you want to feel at your wedding, then talk about how awesome it is/was/will be and make other people question why they got a long dress! Haha ps. I deleted the pic of mine so my fiancé won’t see it, but I posted it on the October 2014 board, I didn’t make many posts so I’m sure you can find it easily if you want to see it.
Post # 5
I got married in a short dress, and have had no regrets. We also had a relaxed affair, and a long gown would have felt out of the place.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I’m having a short dress made. I did go try on long dresses and I loved the experience (and REALLY loved the badass corsets and what they did for my figure), but it just cemented the fact that those dresses are NOT me.
I’m having a wedding like yours, OP. It will be fun and casual. My FI isn’t even going to wear a jacket, just a vest. When I was in the long dresses I kept trying to picture myself at my own wedding and it just… didn’t work.
You won’t regret it!!! And think of what wonderful SHOES you can show off! I’m planning on wearing at least two pairs, maybe three! throughout the night.
Post # 7
My dress is tea length and I don’t regret a damn thing about it. It looks fabulous and it’s formal enough for our venue without being stuffy or hard to walk in. It also fits the early-1940s feel we’re going for. I can’t imagine myself in anything but a shorter dress. The longer ones just weren’t me.
Post # 8
@TattoosAndDiamonds: I found your dress, it’s great and you look absolutely amazing in it!
Mine will also be about knee-length, I like tea-length but I think I prefer something a bit shorter…
Post # 9
I wore a tea length dress and have no regrets at all!!! I love that thing and would wear it around the house (I’m pregnant so it doesn’t fit right now). It was VERY me, and long dresses just weren’t. I tried on long dresses, they were pretty, but didn’t feel right.
Wear whatever makes you happy 🙂
Post # 10
@SophieCo: haha Thanks!! It is great. It’s Da Vinci 50138
I’m so glad there is so much short dress love going on! It’s like a mini support group for being a little non-traditional.
Post # 11
Thanks for all the support ladies! I will still try on both long and short dresss just to be sure, but now that I’ve read all your wonderful comments, going for something a little less traditional sounds so appealing! The look I have in mind is sort of 1960s inspired, with an off-white coat, white gloves (leather or lace, not sure) and a birdcage veil. And of course some pretty amazing shoes! Sounds so much more fun and especially much more comfortable that a big stuffy gown!
Post # 12
@SophieCo: I wanted a tea length dress, but then when it came time to try dresses on, I couldn’t find any of them! Tea length dresses aren’t really big here in Australia, so I found it impossible to try one on. I ended up buting a long dress I loved (but when it came in, it looked pretty meh. It was too big and just made me look like a white sausage, and it was SOOOO much fabric). Dress regret kicked in to overdrive and I KNEW I should have gotten a short dress because a gown is not me at all!
I found a beautiful ballgown pre-owned (it was barely worn as the previous bride had worn it for the ceremony only), took it to a seamstress and told her to chop the skirt off (and make some straps). I’m supposed to be picking it up this afternoon but here are a couple of progress photos for you!
Ps sorry for the HUGE pictures, I’m on my phone
Post # 13
If you feel more comfy and more like YOU in a short dress, go for it! Like you, the long dresses weren’t “me” and I felt so much better in a short one. I wore a cocktail length Alfred Angelo and don’t regret it one bit.
You’ll probably regret it more if you got a dress that you got because it was what you thought you were supposed to get, rather than what you wanted. Stay true and rock on with your bad self! (Plus you can rock some amazing shoes to show off).
P.S. Best part of rocking a short dress? You don’t need an entourage to pee! 🙂
Post # 14
I’m getting married in a tea-length dress. I’m not regretting a thing.