Post # 1
FI got a job offer today. It’s more money and may even come with benefits, and it’s for a position in the field he wants to work in so it’d be amazing experience and look great on his resume.
The kicker? It’s a full time gig, meaning he’d have to go to school part time and will end up graduating next August instead of next May. Meaning…we could keep our wedding date, but there would literally be zero time for a honeymoon because of his summer schooling. We’d get one night, maybe two, and that’s it. Then we’d be apart (we’re LDR) for at least one more month while we wrap up loose ends (I’ll be preparing for an internship and he’ll be finishing summer classes). So not only would there be no honeymoon, but we’d get to stay apart right when we get married. Freakin’ awesome 🙁
I know this is completely irrational, but for me, the thought of not having a “real” honeymoon that happens right after the wedding is a complete and utter total letdown. There’s no remaking those memories. By the time we’d get to go (maybe that December), the “we-just-exchanged-vows” feeling will be gone and it would probably feel like any ol’ vacation…
I know it’s an amazing opportunity for FI but the honeymoon is what I was looking forward to the most during the whole wedding process (and yes, I am one of those girls who’d rather elope but got talked out of it).
I’m so bummed and feeling so guilty for not being more excited for FI…
Post # 3
You have every right to feel how you feel. You feel conflicted, which is normal in this situation. You are happy for your FI, but at the same time, you won’t have the honeymoon you want. I think you guys can have a wonderful honeymoon later on whenever he is settled with school, work, etc. I know you may have to wait a little longer, but the waiting is half the fun! Get yourself excited for the future honeymoon by planning and looking into all of your options. Talk to your FI about having your dream honeymoon later on down the road.
My FI and I are getting married in nine days and we won’t be living together. He’ll be living two and a half hours away in PA and I’ll still be living at home in NJ. I will be able to move in with him once I can find a job up in his area. So I understand how you feel about not being able to be with him much. It really sucks, but I’m just looking forward to when I can live with him.
I hope I was able to help somewhat. I know things are easier said than done. Time is the biggest factor here unfortunately. I agree, I would want to have my honeymoon right after the wedding as well, but I think you’ll still have a great one in the future.
Post # 4
I didn’t have a honeymoon either. It made me a bit sad but oh well in the end it’s just a vacation and we will take a lot of vacations over the years. I would do a little minimoon so that you have some time alone before the long distance and then plan a bigger trip after he finishes school to celebrate!
Sounds like it’s a great opportunity for your FI and you (him having a good job is good for you because it gives you a stable financial base).