(Closed) Should be excited, but instead I’m bummed…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

You have every right to feel how you feel.  You feel conflicted, which is normal in this situation.  You are happy for your FI, but at the same time, you won’t have the honeymoon you want.  I think you guys can have a wonderful honeymoon later on whenever he is settled with school, work, etc.  I know you may have to wait a little longer, but the waiting is half the fun!  Get yourself excited for the future honeymoon by planning and looking into all of your options.  Talk to your FI about having your dream honeymoon later on down the road.  

My FI and I are getting married in nine days and we won’t be living together.  He’ll be living two and a half hours away in PA and I’ll still be living at home in NJ.  I will be able to move in with him once I can find a job up in his area.  So I understand how you feel about not being able to be with him much.  It really sucks, but I’m just looking forward to when I can live with him.

I hope I was able to help somewhat.  I know things are easier said than done.  Time is the biggest factor here unfortunately.  I agree, I would want to have my honeymoon right after the wedding as well, but I think you’ll still have a great one in the future.

Post # 4
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I didn’t have a honeymoon either.  It made me a bit sad but oh well in the end it’s just a vacation and we will take a lot of vacations over the years.  I would do a little minimoon so that you have some time alone before the long distance and then plan a bigger trip after he finishes school to celebrate!

Sounds like it’s a great opportunity for your FI and you (him having a good job is good for you because it gives you a stable financial base).

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