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Definitely my bridesmaids will be paying for their own dress! I think it's nice if you can afford to pay for it, but it's definitely not the norm.
It is the repsonsibility of the birdesmaids to pay for their own dresses. They generally know this when they accept the position. That being said, I paid for my ladies dresses. I am making them myself, so I just purchased the materials to make them on my own. You can always pay for them and let them know they owe you however much fro the dresses.
I think everybody can. I am the only person I know who paid for their bridesmaids dresses, but only b/c my mom made them and they were $25 apiece for the fabric. I don't think brides should pay for the dresses, but I don't think they should necessarily go, "hey i picked out these dresses. Buy them" and they're like, $350. I think it's a two-way street. Respect the fact they're buying money on a dress you want them to wear. But that's me, i'm sorta anti-restrictive about those things. I dunno, we paid for our whole wedding so IMO, where there's a will, there's a way. I felt like it was the right thing to do. So did my mom.
$60 apiece is AWESOME tho. Don't feel guilty about that!!!!
It's the norm for the BMs to pay for their own attire. They might even love you for picking a dress at such a great price (as long as it is not hideous! lol)!
When you are asked to be in a wedding, you know there is a cost involved. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask your bridesmaid to pay for their own gowns. I have never been in a wedding where the bride paid for my dress, but it is very much appreciated when they consider the cost when chosing a dress. $60 is so inexpensive your girls should be thrilled!
I just get anxious whenever money is involved. I think that I would be more comfortable with the situation if I had gone out with my BM's to pick the dresses, and have each girl pay up-front for them themselves. But because I bought them online (I asked each girl if she liked the dress beforehand) with my own money, I feel a bit weird approaching them all and saying "fork over the money"!
And, I think that they're nice dresses!
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I am paying for my bridesmaids dresses because I personally believe it is right for me.. I have been in a wedding where i had to shell out almost $300 on a hideous dress including alterations and its sitting in my closet.. I feel like if i'm making someone wear something, I cant also make them buy it.. So I am treating my BMs and I wouldn't have it any other way :)
My bridesmaids paid for their dresses, although I paid to have them rush ordered. And $60 is a steal for bridesmaids dresses!
You could always gift them their dresses in lieu of presents. Most girls would be thrilled to receive a dress instead of traditional presents.
I like the dress!
That price is amazing!! perhaps that can be your gift for them as being attendants? How much were you planning on spending on them for that?
I am only having a MOH and she's my niece who just graduated, so she's low on funds. I paid for her dress and will get her accessories but she'll be responsible for alterations, since she'll be able to use it later. But if I had a bigger bridal party, I'd have put it out from the beginning the expectation that each will be responsible for the costs. That's usually the prevailing view, so I'm sure they will have no problem.
And that you kept the cost so low will be appreciated.
I voted for them paying for their own, but I will admit that I paid for one of my sisters. It was only $50 fortunately and I felt bad that she was paying for airfare from California and she's had to make an extra trip this year because my grandma died. So I paid for her dress only to find out that my mom is paying for her plane ticket! She's a lucky girl!
my bridesmaids are paying for theirs (sort of: my parents are probably paying for my sil's dress and fi's parents are def paying for fsil's dress). before i picked out the dresses, i asked them each how much they were willing to spend, and then i paid for half the cost for the 2 who gave a number lower than the chosen dresses' cost.
Yes, it is reasonable to ask them, as long as the price is reasonable as well. With that said, my BM's and I are splitting the cost of the dresses. They are $175 each and I offered to pay $100 and they will be paying $75 :) Since I wanted them to wear one style of dress, I basically chose three designs and had them vote for their most favorite. One was not happy because her choice didn't win (she was the only one that chose a different dress) but hey, we gotta compromise, right? Majority wins! :)
I'm paying for all my bridesmaid's dresses /shoes / accessories. I don't know if its an asian custom but everyone I've known gotten married the bride had paid for the BM's dresses. Personally I think it really makes sense because they have already been helping with the wedding and spending the money for the bachelorette or bridal showers. I see it as a gift for the bridesmaids
I've been BM a few times and I never had to pay for my dress but the time and money spent to fly out of town and host a bridal shower & bachelorette party expenses came out way more than buying my own dress.
It's definitely normal to ask your bridesmaids to pay for their dresses. Same for your groomsmen paying for their tux rental; it's part of being in a wedding. I think that's a very reasonable price, and they'd probably be thrilled at what a steal you got! (Not to mention that the dress is totally rewearable)!
I also bought my bridesmaids their dresses upfront, and then collected the money after. I just said "Hey guys, I ordered the dresses (they had already tried them on and had given me a thumbs up). They were $98... don't worry about paying me back right away, whenever you get time is fine with me!"
I'm paying for their hair to be done, shoes and jewelry. Perhaps you can cover the cost of some of their accessories as a gift?
That's definitely reasonable. I've been in 3 weddings bought my dress for all of them. FI's been in 7 weddings- rented his tux for all of them. It's one of those things you KNOW when you're asking to participate.
I agree with everyone else. If you are asked to be in a bridal party, then you understand that means buying the dress. If the bride is able to buy or help pay for the dress, then that's wonderful but usually the bm will pay for her dress. And $60 is an awesome price for bm dresses. I would just tell them that you bought them all and let them know how much money they were and that they can get you the money anytime. Also, like others have said, it might be a good idea to have them be their attendant gifts.
Wow, that's a steal, and I think for the most part, the BMs usually pay. If you were to ask them to wear the same accessories (shoes, jewelry, etc.) then I think you should be responsible for paying, but not the dress.
definately part of being a BM is buying the dress, no matter what it looks like. im being super nice and shopped around for the cheapest i could find and letting them pick anyone they want from a choice of five and pick their own accessories within a color. honestly at that price - who would complain!?!?!?
Im paying for my bridesmaid dresses. But then again we are going to the department store and getting dresses on sale. Which we wont have a problem since all we are looking is for a black dress. 
They could choose the dress but I will have the final okay. So we could all be happy with the dresses.
it is definitely normal for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses... when you ask someone to be your bridesmaid you don't throw in there "but beware... you're going to have to spend money". it is something that they should know to look into themselves before they accept the position.
IMO, when you ask someone to be one of your bm's, not only are they saying "yes" to you, but they're also accepting the cost that comes along with being a bm.
I think most BM to expect to pay for their BM dresses.
However, I do think its the responsibility of the bride to ensure they arn't crazy expensive. Personally I would never ask my BM to pay over $100 (mine were $60 too!!)
Its hard because brides think you HAVE to get your dress from a bridal shop where the dresses are all $150+. I paid $175 for a dress for my friends wedding that I will never wear again....its part of being a BM and I would do anything for her, I just wish she would of shopped around a little more esp. considering the dress wasn't anything special.
I think this also varies by where you are geographically, actually. I have been to 5 NYC weddings last year and have a few more, plus was a bridesmaid in a wedding two years ago. In all of the scenarios, the bride paid for the dresses.
However, I think the rule is that if you give your girls a choice (i.e- black dress, knee length, everything else up to the girls), they pick whatever dress they want and pay for it themselves.
Since I will be asking my girls to wear the same dress that we will pick out together, I am going to pay for the dresses. Having 3 girls really helps and it's a nice gesture :)
The hair, shoes, etc- they are on their own and can buy whatever they want.
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I managed to score a deal online for my bridesmaid dresses (After Six for $60.00 a piece).
I'm wondering how many Bee Brides are counting on their attendants to pay for their wedding day attire?