Post # 1
I’m feeling stressed!
We married last year, are living in the little house I bought 6 years ago….which we love, its gorgeous, homely and in the most perfect position in the town we love. However its too small for us now as we are currently TTC so we need to move on. We have seen a house we like, its in budget (though top of) its in a nearby village that is well thought of, its finished beautifully and we wouldn’t have to do a thing to it and its pretty big for the UK. I should be loving it and happy to put in an offer. But I’m reluctant. I’m not sure if its the commitment or the house isn’t quite right (how important is a south facing garden over a north westerly garden, do we need a huge dining room or will a smaller one do, is a long thin kitchen as great as a square one?).
So tell me Bee’s did you all get cold feet when moving to a bigger place, is that just natural, or is it just me, or perhaps this house?
Post # 2
Oh, I have pulled the pin on TWO ‘dream houses’ because I got cold feet.
Buying a house IS NOT FUN. It and moving are sooooooo stressful.
Post # 3
I think it sounds like your heart is still with your current house even though your head knows you need somewhere else, I imagine most people would feel like that after 6 years of memories in your current home!
Maybe it could help if you wrote down the things you love about your current house and matched them to this new house? But I would consider that if you are TTC then you will probably appreciate more space in the long term. As a UK bee myself I do feel more secure knowing I have bought my family home, especially as it looks like many of my friends won’t be able to.
Post # 4
It SHOULD be fun… But it isn’t lol. I got cold feet and it’s natural. Although it’d be hard given our current market you can always sell again. If you feel your current house is too small it probably is 🙁
we had a NW garden growing up and my parents kinda hated it lol but that being said they’ve been there 20 years and have no plans to move! 🙂 a house will never be entirely perfect and I think it’a normal to worry about these imperfections and weigh up how important they are to you. Buying a house isn’t cheap
Post # 5
Olivepepper: Oh no….I think I could do that!
MissHoney: We really are lucky that we are in a position to buy something like this, quite a few of our friends are nowhere near. Having a family home ready for when the family expands will be great. But deciding on one is just awful! It looks like prices are going up again as well. Urgh
LeopardPrintBee: Yep, looking on rightmove is great fun….actually following through with a buy. Tough! Ours really is too small. We have boxes of stuff everywhere, including both parents places! So moving is a necessity, and I want to move….trouble is I think I want a £1m + Grade II listed farmhouse with gardens over 1 acre….and we cant afford that. So what we can get has to be a compromise. Thanks for the take on the North West Garden, the home owners told us they get sun all afternoon and evening….but I’m not sure, and I do LOVE a sunny garden. My parents was full south so we have sunshine all the time.
Oh how I wish it was easier!
At least I’m not alone!
Post # 6
I loved home shopping BUT i’ve always loved real estate…. As far as the actual homebuying process however we have been waiting over nine months (since August) for our short sale to close, needless to say we are frustrated!
Post # 7
You think buying a house will be fun…until you actual go to buy one. It’s not fun at all. I’m sure you’re feeling hesitant because you’ve already invested so much into your current house. But like you said, you need a bigger house so you just have to move on. Also, it takes a lot of money to buy a home and I know it’s scary. We just bought a house and the thought of having so much less in our bank accounts is very scary. However, I’m super excited to have a house to call home.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Stevens Estate
We bought our first home together 3 yrs ago. The whole process sucked. So stressful…the bank was a pain in the ass. But it was worth it in the end.
We rented a townhouse before we moved…and living there was hell. I swear we had the worst neighbors. Actually..buying a house wasn’t even something we were considering at the time, but our neighbors from hell ruined the renting/community living experience for us. We decided we needed more privacy and our own space. Now I am glad we did. The last three years have been peace and quiet and we lucked out with good neighbors this time. Except for the weird drunk guy across the street, but he’s nothing compared to who we used to live next to.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
we are in the process of buying. we fell in love with a property in Jan and called it our ‘dream home’ – then it went before we could buy it. i was heart broken but everything happens for a reason – we have just found a bigger (4 bed!!), cheaper newbuild home that actually suits us much better!!
whatever house you decide to buy, whether it has a long or square kitchen, will work for you. you will make it work for you and make it your own. buying a house to have a future family in is one of the hardest things to do i think – how does anyone know what that ‘family’ house will need to be?! find a house you love and put an offer in on it. if you can picture yourselves living in it – DO IT! then enjoy the ride of solicitors, contrat exchanges and parting with LOADS of money! LOL.x
Post # 10
LilLis: Should it be? Yes. Is it always? No.
I had fun buying my house but it’s exactly what we wanted, we were the only offer, and we got it for way less than the asking price. Not the typical experience, though.
Post # 11
Lol you and me both! We live just outside Cheshire and Manchester and there are aome gorgeous farm houses! I can keep dream in’ 🙂
I also love looking on rightmove! We found estate agents to be the worst part about looKing. Like last time, they just never bothered showing up so we were stuck outside for 40minutes 🙁 pain in the arse
yeah we didn’t get sun but on thought maybe it was NE? Little bits of the garden did but not the whole lot and it wasn’t much. we’re not famed for sun though in the grim north! 😉
Post # 12
Maybe go view it in the evening and see what sun they’re getting?
Post # 13
It should be fun…but the process surely isn’t. We were planning to wait until after the wedding to buy a house, but we had been checking out the market for a while. We found a house we loved, and within 4 weeks we were closing on it…THE DAY BEFORE THE WEDDING! Talk about stressful! There was a mix of emotions between being so excited and so stressed at the same time! Luckily, we had a great lender and a great real estate agent who helped calm our fears…
Post # 14
soy: I love houses….I think part of the buying problem is that if we buy ‘This’ house…..then we cant have any of the others 😉
weird_bunny: Oh don’t, the decision is just the beginning isn’t it. I know with the last house I wanted to throttle the estate agent!
LeopardPrintBee: Ha, ha. I’m in the soft South……commuter belt for London so Expensive with a capital E……..sunshine appeal to us…..though in my county (Essex) fake bake seems to be even more popular than a natural tan! We just booked a second viewing for this evening, so will check out the sun situation.
MissCountryGirl727: Oh dear, now that is stressful…….but its kind of sweet that you get to go back to your married home right after the wedding. I had a friend who was moving boxes the day of her wedding. They didn’t live together before marriage and moved into their house on the wedding night. It was really sweet.
Post # 15
I’ve bought & sold a number of houses & it’s never fun, always stressful. Much so when you’re buying investment propery than your actual home.
Cold feet are normal, too. Take your time & listen for your still small voice inside. Keep us posted!