Post # 1
Ok so my invites went out last week. I hav erecieved the RSVP from my in laws and their 2 kids. We wanted to offer a nice menu so we picked Salmon, Steak, Chicken, Veggie and a childrens option. They stated that the 6 yr old wants Steak and the 8 yr old wants Salmon and they ordered one steak and one salmon for themselves. At first I thought it was a joke, but my fiance thinks they are serious. How do I politely tell them the little ones need to eat the chidlren’s option? I’m not trying to be cheap, but we have a budget and I know the word will spread and more kids will be requesting adult choices. Please help we have a good relationship and I don’t want to ruin it over this. I am just shocked that they would think this is ok especially when they have already decided not to rent the right tux for my fiance’s dad because to quote them ” I am cheap and it is too expensive”
Post # 3
Honestly, I don’t think children HAVE to eat the children’s option. It’s an option, it is there to make sure they have something to eat.
I don’t think you can tell them their child has to eat the children’s food.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
How old are they? If they are over the age of 6 I wouldn’t really expect them to eat off the children’s menu. If you really want them to eat the children’s option then order for them and don’t say anything. They’ll figure it out when they get children’s food at the wedding and most likely your in-laws will have forgotten that they ordered adult items for the kids.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
honestly I don’t see the big deal. Some kids don’t want to eat chicken fingers and fries.
Post # 6
I think it’s odd that they did this. Are these your FI’s siblings? Maybe your in laws think they deserve “nicer” food because they are immediate family? While I think it is ridiculous, I’m not sure I’d say anything to them about it.
Post # 7
For some 8 year olds, a kids meal is not enough food. Also, did you mention what the childrens option was? Often it’s mac n cheese. As a lactose intolerant kid, that would have made me sick.
Post # 9
@beachbride1216: I don’t know if I would just change it without letting them know. One of my ex’s brothers did this to me and I had a horrible allergic reaction and had to be taken to the hospital on their wedding night….from the reception. At least I was an adult, I can’t imagine the panic it would incite if I had been a child.
Post # 10
We only had 2 kids at our wedding (cousins, flowergirl and ring bearer), and my aunt originally put them both down on the RSVP for the prime rib. We asked (in a way that made it sound like it was mostly for their benefit to make the kids happy, which it partly was, although of course we also would have preferred not to pay for a full meal for a little 3 and 7 year old kid haha) if the kids would prefer a kids meal. She decided the 3 year old would prefer the (cheaper) chicken tenders, but the 7 year old still got the prime rib. If she had said both still wanted the adult meal, we wouldn’t have complained, but we did give them the option and they hadn’t realized they HAD an option before and were happy to have a meal more catered toward the younger one.
Just say it in a way that makes it sound like omg you’re so nice we have a special awesome meal just for the kids that is a more appropriate size and type of food, and all of the other kids will be eating it so you don’t want to upset the other kids by giving them a different meal. Or, you could not say anything and just give them the kids’ meal, people really don’t remember what they pick on the RSVPs anyway, lol.
Post # 11
I’m sure they didn’t do it to spite you or anything, Im sure based on your RSVP card, they thought it was an option for their child to have whatever meal they wanted. My son would have preferred the steak/chicken option over the kids option as well.. Most children’s options are chicken fingers and fries or Mac & Cheese, and that’s cool for a 2-3 year old, but not necessarily for older kids.
if its really a problem for you, just order the kids meals for the kids and don’t worry about it.. I’m sure nobody will notice by the time your wedding comes around.
Post # 12
i wouldn’t pay $100 for a child to eat, they would get the children’s menu.
we are not having children at our wedding, but 2 of my FI’s cousins, ages 24 and 17 do not eat anything. I asked the catering coordinater if we could give them the children’s menu and she said that was fine.
Post # 13
@court0513: e children’s menu is an option, and only an option. You cannot force children to eat chicken nuggets and fries just because of their age. Many children would prefer steak to processed crap.
No one would suggest telling Granny she can’t get the steak because she is old, and eat very much. And you cannot do the same to children.
Post # 14
I think it really depends on what the children’s menu option is. Not all kids exist on chicken tenders and mac & cheese. My three and four year old would be all over the salmon though, if it were an option for the kids.
Post # 15
I dislike the idea of children’s food for a whole host of reasons but I think you should feed the kids what they asked for. In the long run it’s not a ton of money extra, and I don’t think “word will get out”.. most kids would prefer the children’s option anyway.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t insist on them eating the kids meal, but perhaps politely clarify that they knew there was a kids option. If they say their children would rather have the adult meal to the kids meal you have to deal with it unfortunately. You can’t decide that all children under X years of age get the chicken fingers.