- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My FI and I got engaged in October, and right away we started talking about our bridal party. Our only siblings are a sister each, so they are my MOH and BM. FI has two best guy friends who are best man and GM. The two of us mostly hang out with a group of 5 (us, two girls and one guy) who we wanted to be BMs and GM. We are both perfectly happy to leave it at that, with 4 girls and 3 guys. Of course there is one questionable inclusion…
Our group of friends also includes a married couple who in the past year we have somewhat grown apart from, while the rest of our group continues to hang out every couple weeks, and has gone on some trips together. The couple is really nice, and the guy is closer with my FI than I am with the girl. Since we got engaged we have seen them a couple times and it has been fun, but I wouldn’t consider them really close friends. We attended their wedding but neither of us were in their BP (although after the fact, the guy told my FI that he wishes he had of asked him as they became closer friends around that time).
We are both a little worried that the guy will feel intentionally left out since there is an uneven number in our BP, and I don’t know what to do. At the end of the day I think it is up to my FI, since the GM should be the people closest to him. There also aren’t any other people (cousins, other friends, etc.) that he would want as a GM, and the numbers thing wouldn’t bother me except that it might make the guy who was left out feel bad.
Do you think we should ask him, or just leave the bridal party as is?