Should FI let his mom have her way or make her pick another song?

posted 1 month ago in Family
Post # 31
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Bumble bee

plannerpersonality :  So many of these songs are supremely awful.  

I vote no mother/son dance.  They are awkward and take up too much time in receptions.

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I agree with others this doesn’t really matter much, but if there is a song that means something to him he should explain to his mother how it makes him think about her and what a good mum she is, or whatever. Get as emotional as possible lol and then she’ll probably want that one. 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

jellybellynelly :  Not to start a fight, but can you source your chimney top comment? I’ve always known the song as being written for “Wizard of Oz” and thought that this backstory was interesting, but I’ve been looking for 15 minutes and all I can see is that the song was written before World War II officially (though obviously there was lots of lead up), and that the writer was Jewish and possibly drew on past feelings and experiences. There are certainly lots of “retroactive” lyric analysis, but I can’t find anything that was specifically from the writer saying “yep, chimney tops refer to the burning flesh in the war.”

Post # 34
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Helper bee

plannerpersonality :  I’m not too familiar with the lyrics for the others you mentioned, but The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face by Roberta Flack is completely inappropriate for a mother/son dance, not to mention impossible to dance to!

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Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

SaraJeanQ : that’s ridiculous  what’s 3 minutes? The parents should have a part in the wedding. I guess you’re against father daughter dances too? Wow an entire 10 minutes was dedicated to the parents. Give me a break that’s so selfish! 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My son and I danced to Lynyrd Skyny

rd’s “Simple Man”.  It was a great moment for me as his mama! 

Post # 38
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Blushing bee

Just let her have her way. It’s not worth fighting over.

Post # 39
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Honey bee

Any approriate song , so long as its really short . Same for father /daughter.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee

vikingbride89 :  It’s actually about 10 minutes for both with getting out there, etc.  And yeah, when your guests are hungry and waiting and watching the awkwardness, 10 minutes is a long time to tack onto entrance, first dance and whatever else you have planned!  

I say awkwardness because it’s almost always weird for the parents, like they don’t want to be doing it.  “Here I am, dancing with my son.. which I’ve never done before.. to say good-bye and give him away, which we already did.”  Freaking weird tradition.

Post # 43
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Blushing bee

futuremrss17 :  Since this was a few days ago, you might have already solved this problem, but if you haven’t, does your fiancé or his mother like Crosby, Stills, and Nash? The song “Teach Your Children Well” has great lyrics for a parent dance. It is 70s folk rock though, so it sounds suuuper country western.

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