- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
This seems silly, but it feels complicated. Let me preface by saying I absolutely have no feelings left for this guy (other than pity…keep reading). I am engaged now to the most wonderful man I can ask for, so I was kinda put off guard when my ex friended my on fb again last week.
6 years ago, I ended our relationship because I realized that he was just not the man I can see myself spending the rest of my life with. He was extremely unmotivated to the point where he got so lazy and gained 75 pounds, and wanted to drop out of college. I lost all attraction to him when he said he wanted to drop out of college to do nothing (well, work at a factory), so I broke it off. We were together 2.5 years at that point, and I believe and still think I was the only person that could better him.
I cut all ties with him because I’m not the type of person to like to keep in touch with exes. Even though I broke it off, doesn’t mean I wasn’t heartbroken too. I felt so guilty for breaking up with him, but I knew it was for the best.
He tried to contact me a few years later when he and his new gf was having problems. I politely answered questions on what I’m doing with my life, blah blah, but never responded when the texts turned more personal. I think he got the hint and left me alone…until now.
He deactivated fb since we broke up, now 6 years later, he’s back on fb, and friends me. Before this, I heard from other ppl that he’s gotten married because he got this girl pregnant. It seems that they were happy. She had another kid from a previous relationship. I was happy for him. But since his fb request, I look on his profile bc it’s public, it seems that he’s now divorced, and is unhappy.
I feel bad for him, but I just don’t want to accept his friend request, partly because I just don’t feel comfortable sharing the last 6 years of my life with him. I don’t want him to stalk me…. lol I don’t want him to start trying to message me again and put me in another akward situation. I don’t have any romantic feelings for him, thats long over, and I also don’t want any sort of friendship or anything. But I do find myself pitying him because of our breakup, he’s spiraled back into his old lazy partying self and stayed there…
I feel heartless to decline a simple fb request, but I just don’t feel comfortable with him noseying around my profile and getting a glimpse of my life that I’ve built so far, I don’t know if that makes sense.
I guess I needed to vent, but I guess I want to know, should I just ignore the friend request?