Should I add another bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@FutureMrsBPJ:  Did you think of her before there was an issue of evening it out? That might help you realize.

Maybe she is someone you really want to be present at your wedding but not necessarily in your wedding party.

Post # 5
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@FutureMrsBPJ:  Yeah that’s a tough one… it’s hard to say. Is there one way you could go that you feel you would regret more?

Post # 6
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1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@FutureMrsBPJ:  If she is in a different part of the country it will likely be very hard for her to really be there for you during a lot the wedding planning process ( dress shopping, bridal shower(s), girls planning nights etc ). Would you be ok with that? If you can’t imagine getting married without her standing next to you, and won’t be bothered by her potentially be unable to help along the way,  then I would say ask her. 

Personally, unless she was my absolute best friend I probably wouldn’t ask. Similarly, if an old friend asked me to be a bridesmaid and she lived a plane ride away, she would probs have to be very special to me in order for me to be able to commit.

Post # 7
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@FutureMrsBPJ:  If you guys aren’t very close anymore and she lives across the country, I’d count her out, especially since you said you just wanted your sisters anyway.

Post # 8
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5002 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Think about it this way – if you are saying you aren’t as close as you once were, do you think that you will have grown even further apart by next May? 

 

Post # 9
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1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know what you’re talking about with your FI having a bigger party than you!  I strugged to find 6 people to ask to be in my bridal party to keep up with his 6 guys..and then one of my BM’s decided she wasn’t going to be able to be in the wedding…so i’m back to being lopsided!  To me…my bridal party is those closest to me…that I want to support me at this special time (and also my Future SIL lol) My FI is close with his family.  I thought about trying to find more BM’s but decided i’m ok with him having more on his side than mine…beacuse I have the girls most important to me…and he has the guys that are most important to him.  If you want her to be by your side for this, then I say ask her…but if you’re thinking about asking her just to try to even out the bridal party I say skip it.

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