Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’ve been working on the FAQ page for my wedding website, and I feel like I may be missing something. I tried to provide information that would helpful guests in planning their attire and other plans for the day. I didn’t dictate what they should wear, but offered info on whether it’ll be inside or outisde and our colors. I have a separate section on my site for registry information, the wedding party, how he proposed, hotel blocks, wedding location, airports and local attractions. This is what I have so far. Can you think of anything else I should add?
Will the ceremony and reception be inside or outside?
What kind of food will be served?
What drinks will be available?
How long will the ceremony and reception run?
What should I do if I have to change my RSVP response?
Are kids invited?
What are your colors?
Post # 2
What do I do about dietry restrictions?
Post # 3
spydezra: This looks good!! The one thing I could add, because I always end up asking/seeking out the response is regarding transportation to/from hotel to the reception, and then back!! Is there a shuttle if I book a room?!
Post # 4
Not dictating what guests should wear is fine, but not suggesting guidelines might make for some uncomfortable guests, if some dress casual and others formal. Maybe some place you could put the words semi-formal, formal, etc., for some guidance?
Post # 5
How do I get there?
What hotel should I stay at?
Is there a gap?
Post # 6
Is it an cash bar? Nothing worse than going to a wedding with no money to find out its a cash bar.
Where are you registered?
Post # 7
Thanks for the suggestions so far! These are great!
MsGinkgo: I do have the address and an embedded Google Map on the site so they can see where it is, but I think you’re right and I should include written directions too.
PABride: That’s a good point, I never know what to wear for weddings. Now I just have to figure out what word to use, haha. It’s a Friday evening-ish wedding at a golf course so I’m thinking semi-formal? Bridesmaids will be in short chiffon dresses so that makes the most sense I think.
OUgal0004: Do you think we should still include that info if we AREN’T having a shuttle? I hate to write something like “Is there a shuttle between the hotel blocks and the venue?” “No, sorry!”
Post # 8
MrsCallalily: Good point; I say on the site that we’re hosting beer and wine, but I should mention there will be a cash option for liquor. I didn’t want to have a semi-hosted bar, but it feels weird denying people from being able to purchase mixed drinks if they want to; almost feels like we’d be trying to “police” our guests.
Post # 9
spydezra: Yes, I’ve always equated the length of the bridesmaid gowns, to the level of formality. We ran into the issue recently, with my daughter’s black-tie wedding. I asked if the dates of 2 of the groomsmen – aquired 2 weeks before wedding, so we couldn’t mail them individual invitations – knew it was black-tie? I didn’t want them to feel uncomfortable, if they thought they were under-dressed. Since it was late summer, and hot/humid, a number of the ladies wore cocktail style dresses, so the 2 guests didn’t would not have felt uncomfortable.
We hosted a shuttle, between the hotel block with the largest number of rooms booked, and the wedding venue. Since they provided the catering, to the off-site veur, they did it for a fee. In hindsight, I think only half the guests used it anyway. (The other hotels with blocks didn’t offer a shuttle service, whether paid or not). Oh well …
Post # 10
“What should I wear?”
I only say this because I got asked this a million times, and I , too, did not want to dictate what people wear. If you want to be non-prescriptive, you totally can be while still providing an answer — for example: “The bride will be wearing a ball gown and the groom will be in a suit. Guests should wear whatever they are comfortable wearing to a semi-formal party. The ceremony will be outside on grass, so keep that in mind when choosing your footwear. Also note that it can get chilly at night.” Or whatever.
I would take out the “What are your colors” question, because it’s not clear to me what guests are supposed to do with that info. Wear that color? Not wear that color? To me, it’s confusing.
Post # 11
stillme: I actually just added the colors thing today after seeing it on somebody else’s site. I thought I would include it since I generally try to avoid wearing the same color as the bridesmaids and there’s actually a reason we picked the colors (navy for Penn State, royal purple for the Ravens). But you’re right, it could confuse people on why I felt the need to point it out, so I might take it off.
Post # 12
spydezra: I would leave it on there, especially since you have good reasons for the colors. I ALWAYS want to know what color the bridesmaids are wearing. I went to a wedding once where I wore the EXACT shade of blue as the bridesmaids and since their dresses were short (as was mine), some guy told me I did a great job as a bridesmaid. Awkward.
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club
spydezra: We aren’t having a shuttle either, so I understand why you don’t want to put “No, sorry!” Instead, we put directions from the preferred hotel to the venue and then the reverse directions back with a note of “with plenty of (free) parking at the venue and hotel!”
Post # 14
wvlefty: Sneaky, I like it! 🙂
weatherbug: Oooo, yeah that is awkward! I probably would’ve just said “thanks!” and changed the subject, haha.
Post # 15
spydezra: When talking about the cash (liquor) bar, also mention if there is an ATM on location or if they take credit cards.