(Closed) Should I add my mom on the program?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: ?????
    Add her. She is your mom after all, regardless of her contribution to the wedding. : (9 votes)
    82 %
    Don't. Your dad paid for it and you don't want to ruffle his feathers. I'm sure she'll understand : (2 votes)
    18 %
    Other (please explain) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    7568 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    If you have a parents section, you really should add her. Leaving her off would imply that she’s not your parent which could be confusing for your guests and hurtful to your mother. 

    If you don’t want to add her, then don’t have a dedicated parents section. Instead, put his name somewhere else. For example, “Alip will be walked down the aisle by her handsome father Name.” Or, “The couple would like to thank Alip’s father, Name.”  

    Post # 4
    Member
    7886 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It would be very inappropriate not to list her under parents of the bride…. because she *is* a parent of the bride.

    But your father can be recognised in other ways. e.g. only his name on the invite, because he is paying so he is the host.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7886 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Then it might be best to follow @AlwaysSunny:  ‘s suggestion and don’t have a parents’ section. But if you have a parents’ section, she has to be there. IMHO.

    Post # 7
    Member
    257 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I say add her, she IS your parent. If dad is contributing then have a ‘hosted by’ section and recognize dad there but mom needs to be recognized as a parent, she gave birth to you…thats my opinion

    Post # 8
    Member
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Do you have reason to think your dad will react badly if she’s listed?

    Post # 9
    Member
    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @AlwaysSunny:  +1

    i also like chickiebee’s suggestion of having a “hosted” section or some other similar section on the program with just your dad’s name. then he can have a spotlight attention of paying for the wedding. “parents of the bride” section doesn’t make me think of who contributed financially to the wedding. it just makes me think of who your parents are. 

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