Post # 1
My mom and grandma just came to visit and as we were walking towards my apartment I was complaining about the mess my neighbours leave on the front porch, how they have left a container of pop there for months and I threw one away but then they put another there and it froze so I’m not sure what it is for. Then we got to my place and our neighbours were outside. They are very nice people and I do not really care that they leave some junk on the front porch. I was just complaining because I knew my mother would mention it. I’m not sure if they heard me but our conversation was akward. It may be because I felt bad or because they heard me. I would hate to hurt their feelings in any way.
I was thinking of making some vegan cookies and going to apologize (they are vegan). My fiance thinks they heard me but my mom doesn’t and she thinks apologizing will make them think I said something much worse than I did. Could anyone offer any advice?
I am starting cookies now anyway, it makes me feel I’m doing something and if I decide not to give them away we can eat them.
Post # 3
Would you apologize if the never heard you? I think you’re only feeling guilt beause they might have heard what you had said.
Apologies need to be sincere. If you wouldn’t apologize unheard, don’t apologize heard. If the garbage bothers you that much, I’d take it up with the landlord.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t…since you’re not sure that they heard you…unless you are in the habit for baking for neighbors! It could be that they just don’t think about how the trash affects you and the other neighbors…so if they DID hear you, the will probably make a better effort to keep it clean.
My Fiance has been leaving tools and wood scraps and junk out in front of our house ever since we moved in almost 2 years ago…I kept asking him to clean it up, and he would say he would, but he didn’t…until people started driving by and asking if stuff was for sale, or broken junk that they could sell as scrap…he finally decided to clean it up…of course, now it’s just junking up the BACKYARD, but it’s a start!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t apologize if I was sure they hadn’t heard me because it would not be of any benefit to them, they would only find out I was complaining and I might feel better but I doubt they would. But I am sorry I complained in public where they could hear me. It was a thoughtless thing to do because of the potential they could hear me.
The landlord has no concern for whether or not this building is nicely kept but you are right he’s the appropriate person to approach regardless.
Post # 6
Hahah JFay your post made me laugh. I do need to remember that not everyone cares about odds and ends laying about. I’m certain they mean nothing by it. Maybe I will keep the cookies since I do not usually bring them any. I know they do not like it if we look into their place because they are sensitive about it being messy. (I have never said anything about that, never would because it is their space, but I was locked out once and it was freezing so I had to ask to be let in to wait for my fiance, and they did let me in but were embarassed).