- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Okay, so things have not been easy since we announced our engagement. FH’s family hates me.. I posted about it here if you want the details
So FH came back from a short business trip and his sister decides to keep calling him at 10 pm at night. I’m not talking about one or two calls, more like 15 times in a row while we are having dinner. He calls his father to let him know he is back in town and talked their business stuff. They get off the phone and his sister is still nonstop calling. He does NOT get along with her, and wants to finish dinner before calling her back. Suddenly she sends a text threating to come to our house if he doesnt answer. First off, she doesnt know where we live. Secondly, he does not have to answer to her. So he got upset, called her and told her off for her trying to make a threat. In the background, she heard me saying, “she doesnt even know where we live.” that was all I said. next thing you know, she’s going off saying that she kept calling because she cared about him and to “tell the b*tch in the back to calm the f*ck down.”
Bees, I know words shouldnt hurt, and I’m a grown woman and shouldnt let obnoxius things like that get to me, but after months of being put down by his family, and after his family basically called my mother a whore, at some point, I am going to put my foot down and defend myself. My FH also snapped and told to come down to or house so she can say what she wants to me person to person, and I made it very clear to her that I’m sick and tired of her crap and if she says one more nasty thing, I will slap her.(she did enough talking that I wanted to finally confront her.) She proceeds to say “first let me find out where you live.” So, we gave her the location. She was really eggin me on. 10 minutes later she says that she’s not going to waste her time going to jail and that i’m immature. Yes, I was immature for getting upset at some name calling, but honestly, every single time the two of them fight, she brings me into it and has to put me down and talk sh*t. She then went on to say to him that I “brainwashed him into thinking his family treats him bad and it’s soo sad.”She continued with saying that she couldnt believe that he changed soo much because of some girl that he barely knew for a year and that it pains her to see him like this. WTF? Seriously?? She really wants to blame me for their conflicts?? She treats him like a dog at work, constantly gets in his business and refuses to give him his paychecks, harasses him everytime she calls, hangs up on him when he does try to talk to her, sprint locates him, runs to her parents at every opportunity she gets to try and get him trouble, refuses to give him the keys to the store when he offers to open on a saturday, then goes and gets drunk and makes him open the store anyway, and he gets in trouble for opening late b/c he didnt know he had to open the store.
I have had my fill with all of his family’s drama. I am sick and tired of his family. If she called because she cared, she would have said something like,”i keep calling and you arent answering. Is everything okay? Im worried. give me a call.” instead of threating to come here and then giving him an attitude each and every time he calls her. I swear this woman is bipolar! After i finally stood up for myself, she goes and says that WE ARE SOO MEAN AND RUDE TO HER. And that it pains her to see him this way.. SO it pains her to see him HAPPY? Because that is what he feels, HAPPY. Before he met me, he was depressed b/c of his family and for being unhappy not knowing what he wanted in his life. Since we got together, we both found the ambition we looked for, we both starting seeking God again, and we both changed to become better people and followers of Christ. But all she sees is him in pain? It hurts her to see that he wants to be a better person? Suddenly, we are the ones being rude to her after everything she’s said to him and about me? I believe I had every right to defend myself, even if it was something as small as her calling a B*tch. But I am human, and eventually my patience will run out.
And now I feel like crap b/c I dont think I can come up from this. Im sure she told her parents about this and switched it up to make herself look innocent, and I dont know if there is even a point in trying to get his parents approval anymore since his mother made it very clear that she made up her mind that she will never accept me even if her son is happy. I cried enough over my FH’s family giving him an ultimatum. But if they really do care about him and love him, wouldnt they at least try to accept me because i make their son happy? Instead, I’m the bad person who brainwashed him into turning his back and leaving them. uuuuughhhh!!! I swear they are the most arrogant people in the world!
But should i just swallow pride and apologize to his sister anyway?