- 9 years ago
Hi, I’m not sure what I should do in this situation…..
I know that if the wedding invitation is addressed to me only then it means that I am not allowed to bring a guest, and that I am not supposed to ask if I can bring a guest. However, I am in a pretty wierd situation…
I was best best best friends with the bride, Breanna, like sisterly close, for about 5 years, and we have known eachother since kindergarten. She moved out of state about a year and a half ago to be with her now fiance (she became very very distant as soon as she moved, I actually believe her fiance is very controlling- she once told me he demanded that she not talk to her mom as much, and she has been forbidden to talk to a few mutual friends. not sure if thats the case with me). she got engaged about a year ago, and we pretty much stopped being friends about a year ago. I have not spoken to her in 7 months. So randomly her mom calls and asks me to come over, she has an invitation for me from Breanna. I was totally NOT expecting one! There was no heartfelt note, or handwritten anything…just an invitation out of the blue.
So I guess despite everything i would like to go to the wedding. The invite was a gesture, so it would be nice to go, be polite, say congrats… It would be a good situation, im not expecting a dramatic reconciliation or anything and i know the day is totally about her wedding so it would be low key and thats perfect. just an appearance to show that i care, and plus, i would truly hate to have missed it. I would like to see her on her wedding day.
The problem is, while I am pretty close to her parents and her siblings, thats about it. And of course they are in the wedding party and will be preoccupied! I wouldnt know anyone else, and it would be sooooo awkward! Nevertheless, I could still manage to pop in, say congrats and go, BUT the real problem is that it is an 8 hour drive away!
SURELY she cannot expect me, a 20 year old girl, to drive 8 hours alone thru the desert to go to her wedding alone where I know no one, stay the night at hotel by myself and then drive home. I mean if it were in my town, definitely. If I knew some other guests that i could go with, sure. Did she have no expectation of me coming, and it was just a gesture that she thought I would ignore? Or, could it just be an etiquette oversight on her part and she doesnt have a problem with me bringing a guest. They are really not very formal people.
I know I’m not supposed to, but should I ask her mom if i can bring a guest? Should I even bother going???