- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
would really appreciate some opinions on this as im thinking of giving up on the idea….
my mother and i have always had a close relationship, the closest of me and my sisters and shes helped so much in the planning of the wedding. as i live 6000 miles away from my family everything was planned a while ago to ensure family and friends could be able to come to the wedding, and for a good while we didnt think my dad would come becaue of financial issues. my father and i are not that close however i always wanted hime to be part of the wedding and to walk me down the aisle. when he started saying that he might not be able to come although hurt, i didnt dwell on it as i didnt want any negativity related to the wedding. so i asked my mother if she would like to walk me down the aisle with my father, not to cover for my father but because i wated her by my side regardless to wether my father was there or not. when i first asked her she said yes, and we didnt talk about it again for a while.
To set the record straight, my parents are divorced but are tied by the house they own back home. its not like they hate each other but they dont particulary get on and lead pretty seperate lives. im not worried that this will cause any problems on the day. however when the invitations arrived my dad felt the urge to find the money (he took out a loan to come) o with thi information i talked to my mum about the 3 of us aisle walking together and at first he said that she thought i wanted only her to walk me, but then refused the idea of all of us walking together. her point is that they are divorced and normally people who are divorced dont normally even speak to eachother.
i explained that i want them both to walk me down the aisle becaue they are my parents and i want them to have that honor on the wedding day, but she just says no. i understand that they are not a partnership anymore however am i being big headed to say that the wedding day is about my relationship with them and the act of being given away by them both as a sign of my respect of them equally regardless to their personal relationship? should i just accept my mothers answer and have my dad walk me or should i ask again? i would really love for my mother to walk me along side my dad.
what do you think>?
oh, and the wedding is next week eeekk!!
thanks for reading ladies xx