Post # 1
Hi there buzzybees!
My FH and I’s engagement story is not so romantic. We knew from the start that we wanna spend the rest of each other’s life together and we’ve been talking about getting married quite early in the relationship. What made the engagement formal is the fact that we started seeing my Pastor for pre-marital counselling, and refer to each other as "my fiancee", he started it.
I don’t have a ring on my finger yet, we’ve been talking about shopping for wedding rings among other things to be done as part of wedding plannning. The big thing is, according to our culture (African), he still has to send his parents to ask my parents fo a bride, and bride price negotiated. That process hasn’t started yet, and somehow i don’t feel completely engaged, but I definately want the ring on my finger.
Should I ask for one????????????????
Post # 3
I think that is a romantic story: you met, you fell in love, you decided together that you want to be together.:)
If the ring is important to you then you should absolutely tell him so. I can’t imagine why you wouldn’t.
Post # 4
i agree, I think you should let him know that you would like an e-ring. i would bring it up around the time that you and he are planning for his parents to ask your parents for your hand in marriage.
Do you think that perhaps the "negotiating bride price" part of the ritual might end up with him also presenting you with a ring (and that you might just be unaware of it?) def talk to your FI about it, and see. Good luck! Oh, and congrats!!!! 🙂
Post # 5
Hmmmm, if he wanted to give you a ring he would have given you one; its understandable that you want one but you cant really make a guy give you a ring
I heard its not a big thing in Europe; maybe he was briought up differently; you can phrase it–I always wanted an engagement ring what do you think?
but you cant demand it
just my opinion