Should I ask him to propose again?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly, I think it’s a little odd.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

He may already be planning something. Just let whatever happens happen.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

The ring FELL APART?!  That sounds like a story all unto itself…

But no, I wouldn’t ask him to redo the proposal.  You said it was beautiful the first time around, so he probably put thought into how he was going to ask and it could hurt his feelings if he found out you wanted to do it again.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it would be really weird to ask him to propose again – as if you were telling him the first one wasn’t good enough. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I regularly hand my ring to my fiance and ask him to ask me again LOL I love the butterflies I get every time he gets down on his knee and asks – this is always in the privacy of our home though and is more of a “For fun” thing – keep it low key and fun without any pressure Wink I totally understand wanting to have the new ring have a memory attached to it!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t think a second proposal is necessary, unless he feels that it is.  He probably already feels awful about the ring issues, so asking for one might hurt his feelings and make him feel like all of his hard work was for nothing the first time.

I would just tell him that you would like to do something a little romantic to commemorate receiving your new ring and leave it at that.  Let him decide if that means a special dinner or flowers or something else.

ETA: If it were me in this situation, and I KNEW when the second ring was coming, I would probably make sure to do something special for him as well.  Whether its an engagement gift for him or your own silly, sweet proposal back to him.  Just make it a fun, sweet memory because your perfect proposal and ring falling apart is already quite the story!

Congrats on your engagement!

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@FutureDrAtkins:  I think that is a great idea! Have him open the package and put it on your finger 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

If you’ve already agreed to marry him, you’re engaged. Like… I don’t get the need to repropose at all. If you want to go out to dinner and he present the ring to you like a little anniversary-type gift, that’s cool. But he already proposed and you already said yes – I’d think it’d feel pretty silly/fake to do it again. This isn’t a play and an actor dropped out so you had to get a new one, this is your real life!

Edit: just saw your most recent post, that’s good!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I don’t think you should ask him to propose again or that should have to. What do you mean that there will be nothing sentimental attached to the new ring? It’s the ring that was bought by the man you love to symbolise his intention to make you his wife. It’s irrelevant that its not the ring he originally proposed with. So if someone steals your ring or you lost it you would want another proposal with the replacement? The whole thing is just silly. That’s just my two cents.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I think between him already proposing/getting you a ring, the ring needing to be replaced, you wanting to repropose to him with the car and then wanting him to re-propose to you with the new ring… the proposals have run their course in the relationship and it is time to move on to the actual engagement and then to the marriage. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

No, no you should not.  The fact that you designed this new ring together and you love it and will wear it for the rest of your life and it will (hopefully) not fall apart make it plenty special!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Mrs_Amanda:  Agree. I was going to write this same thing.

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