Post # 1
He’s a great DJ and has been the DJ for my 21st B-Day party.
I’m debating whether it is a good idea to hire him as my DJ at
the reception or just let him enjoy the reception without any “work”.
FI and I is thinking of paying him $500 and he would NOT turn it down.
I know he may not say ‘no’ to us being polite and all, but would it be better to hire someone
else– we’re on a tight budget though…
Post # 2
No, absolutely, definitely, 100% NO. Your brother should enjoy your wedding, not be tasked to work for you.
Perhaps he can recommend a friend or colleague who has the skill and equipment to DJ, but please don’t ask your brother to work your event, rather than enjoying it.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
If I were him, I’d rather enjoy my sister’s wedding instead of working through it…
Post # 4
abbie017: totally agree +1000
Don’t mix family with business. If something goes south it’s you vs your family cause your brother tried and did his best. If you use some one else your family will be on your side.
What I would do is ask your brother for recommendations of djs and when he says “oh I can do it” you say “No bro I want you to enjoy yourself and spend time with the family”.
Post # 5
onelovelybride: he will want to enjoy your day with you. In the future you will wish he was their to share your memories on your beautiful day. not DJ for your guests. Its temping since you are on a tight budget but maybe he can help you find someone else in your price range or ask a different friend. your brother should go as a guest not as staff.
Post # 6
So glad I asked this question. Ladies you have made very good points.
Post # 7
Thanks bees. I’ll go with hiring a DJ instead of my brother. Hopefully he can make some recommendations and still remain within budget. I want him to enjoy my day with me!!
Post # 8
I agree..no no no no no. Never mix business and pleasure. There will ultimately be something that goes wrong and you don’t want to put him in that position and/or resent him later for it happening on the biggest day of your life. Just tell him you want him there as a guest and that you would hate for anything to happen and ruin your relationship.