Post # 1
My Fiance is having 1 bestman and 4 groomsmen. I plan on having my sister as a matron of honor & 3 of my closet friends as Bridesmaids. This would give him 5 total and me 4 total. Well my fiance has 3 sister, (2 are twins). Their ages are (17,17 & 23). They will be 18 at the time of the wedding. If i include them, then i will have 7 and he will have 5. The oldest sister lives in another state and one of the twins is going away to college like a month before the wedding. I can’t decide if I should include them. & I’m not sure if it would be really difficult to have them participate in everything when one is in another state and one of the twins is preparing to go to college. I asked my fiances dad and he said I should just leave them out (not sure why he said that) and I know when I ask his mom, she will say to include them. I’ve been with my fiance for 7 years so i’ve known his sisters for a long time. The oldest i’m not super close with but I love all of them like they’re my own sisters. I don’t know what to do!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Don’t worry about uneven numbers and stick with your current bridal party. A bunch of young sisters in law sounds like it’s only going to add unnecessary drama to the bridal party to me.
Post # 4
Don’t include them just because they are his sisters. Include ALL of them if you really WANT them as bridesmaids, or just don’t include any. It’s not mandatory to include them.
Post # 5
That depends. Do you want to include them? I’m including my FSIL, but not out of feeling like I should. If I hadn’t wanted to, I wouldn’t have
Post # 6
I voted no. I get the vibe that you don’t really want to anyway. Do what you like. Maybe ask FI what he thinks. If he is cool with leaving them out, then do it. You could also have a chat with the sisters and see what happens.
Post # 7
@carterlove I do want them in the wedding I just don’t want them to feel obligated if they can’t make it. I wish I could ask them before officially asking them haha. (I plan on sending out “will you be my bridesmaid?” cards next week)
Post # 8
It was always my understanding anyone udner 18 was a Jr bridesmaids.
Have the 23yr old sister be the 5th bridesmaid for even numbers and then have the twins be jr bridesmaids, they can walk down the isle together so you wont ahve to worry about having the same amount of groomsmen.
Post # 9
My only advice, don’t ask his mom her opinion – if she relates it back to them, and then you decide not to ask them, they could be upset.
Post # 9
katiebug1230: have the 23 year old sis as a bridesmaid and the twins as junior bridesmaids that way they feel included but the sit out in the audience with everyone else.
Also maybe consider having a list of quotes about love and commitment and have immediate family members each say one of the quotes that way they participate in the ceremony also
Post # 10
katiebug1230: i would include them if you are close with them. My DH has 2 sisters and without question, I asked them to be in my wedding party. However the oldest dropped out bc she ended up getting pregnant and couldn’t fit in her BM dress. She was still very involved with the wedding planning, her two kids were the flower girl and ring bearer.
Also, at the time, his youngest sister was doing a 6 month internship in Florida, so she wasnt too involved with the planning. So what I did was pick out a dress for her before she left.
Post # 11
I would include them, they are going to be family and apart of your life for a very long time. I’d rather have the whole family up there then worrying about the evenness of numbers