- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
(Sorry if long–going anon for this)
Any time one of my siblings marries, my parents gift $10,000 as a wedding gift. When my three older siblings married, they all received the $10,000 gift on their wedding day. A year before my wedding took place, my parents invested a large share of money into my older sister’s restaurant. About two weeks before my wedding, my parents sat me down and told me I would receive the $10,000 from my older sister. She’s not gifting the money but is essentially transferring it to me as a form of partial repayment to my parents. Though this isn’t the most ideal situation, it’s a gift so what could I do but to accept and say thank you.
Well the wedding came and went (October) and my sister never gave us the money. I didn’t make a big deal about it as my parents told me a few weeks later during Thanksgiving that the money should be coming from my sister sometime in December as she had a bit of a slow quarter with her businesses. Now December is almost done. My husband and I need to buy a car for him as we only have one, and it’s not working to share. I was hoping to use the wedding money as a down payment for the car rather than tapping into our savings.
The problem is that anytime I ask her about the money, she started drilling me, basically trying to get into my finances (none of her business btw) When I refuse to answer her questions, she’ll make comments like, “Why do you need the gift right away if you making x amount of dollars, or if you wouldn’t spend so recklessly this wouldn’t be an issue (not true at all).” The last time i asked for the money, it started an argument with her saying that I might get it in installement payments over the next two years!
At this point what should I do? Should I approach my parents about this? Should I wait a little longer to see if she can come up with the money? Money is always a sticky subject, and I don’t know what to do!
Any input is appreciated!