Should I ask my SO……??????

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How easily can you talk to your SO?
    I can talk to he/she about anything! : (112 votes)
    74 %
    There are some things that I keep to myself. : (38 votes)
    25 %
    He/she isn't open to having "deep" conversations. : (2 votes)
    1 %
    We both dance around important topics. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    13168 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We can talk about anything.  Sometimes I even tell him things (usually “woman stuff”) that he claims he doesn’t want to know!  Same as I really didn’t need a G-Chat message from him earlier today about how he needed to plunge the toilet.

    Ahhh marriage!  🙂

    Post # 4
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @rosegoldie:  I’ve actually noticed that too. I have thought on several occasions, you want to marry this man/you have married this man and you can’t speak to him? It is baffling. FI and I have a completely open relationship and I can talk to him about everything. Even if he doesn’t agree with me, I know he will listen to me and respect how I feel. I think communication is key.

    Post # 7
    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I posts threads like that when I’m worried I’m not choosing my battles correctly. *Could* I got to him with any issue I’m having or question? Sure. But sometimes I want to make sure I’m not overthinking things and making a mountain of a molehill.

    Post # 8
    8677 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    There are no limits to what my husband and I talk about. I would not have married him if I did not feel comfortable talking to him about anything and everything.

    Post # 9
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    It confuses me as well.  I talk to FI about everything, I have never run into a issue where I thought “should I say this to FI?” Have been hesitant to speak to him about something? Absolutly, but I suck it up and say it anyways because nothing can be solved if it isn’t talked aobut.  Also if I can’t talk to FI about something, who can I talk to???? This is the man I am going to spend my life with and if we can’t talk about everything it’s going to be a long and rough life.

    Post # 11
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @badabing88:  I agree. I have to think for a long time about whether I need to confront the issue or whether it’s not important. I can absolutely talk to him about everything and he actually loves it when I confront him because he likes *fixing* things and he is always looking for ways to improve everything, including relationships. 

    In my past relationship, I could not speak to him about anything without every issue being “my fault”, without being told that I’m “useless”, without things been thrown or broken. It was horrible and it is in my current relationship that I’ve realised the value of having a SO I can be completely honest and vulnerable and have him love me and be honest and vulnerable back.

    Post # 12
    1190 posts
    Bumble bee

    The only thing I can’t talk with my sweetheart about is some of the gruesome stories at work. I’m a triage nurse, and he can’t handle details of interesting cases.


    I don’t think that counts, right? 


    If there was ever an issue that I had, I talk with him about it and that’s what is most important.

    Post # 13
    5905 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I CAN talk to Mr. 99 about anything, but I’m certainly not going to bother him with a bunch of inconsequential crap…I tend to leave heavy subject matter on a back burner until the appropriate time or place arises….I also never confont him when I’m upset because i KNOW I’m not thinking clearly and if I wanna pick a fight with him just for the makeup sex….he’s usually down because I come right at him, guns blazing….so he’s on to me…but not about to complain!

    Post # 14
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @rosegoldie:  We can talk about anything, I’d say. Sometimes I get a little nervous to broach certain subjects with him (just in case I articulate it wrong or whatever.. I’m an anxious girl haha), but then I always feel much better after I talk to him. I talk to him non-stop so sometimes I actually have to filter myself.

    So far I haven’t had any big “should I tell him or not” dilemmas.

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