Post # 1
I recently started replanning my wedding that I had to cancel in the beginning year due to some unforseen financial problems. Now that we have everything all worked out I have started wedding planning again. I had already previously asked my bridesmaids and am doing a family only wedding party. I went to visit my mom this past weekenf and my half sister who I am not close with expressed interest in helping me with wedding planning. It is a DIY wedding and sje is really crafty. I told her I would love her help and we have been talking and she has been really helpful so far. Now I feel like I should ask her to be a bridesmaid. The thought crossed my mind when I was first deciding, but since we have never really been close I didnt think she would be interested. I have asked both of my parents and FI and they all think its a great idea. Im not sure and I dont want to make her feel uncomfortable or obligated to say yes. I think it would be a great chance for us to become closer and a way to thank her for her help. Im just on the fence about asking.
Post # 3
If she is going to be helping, then you should absolutely ask her to be a bridesmaid! Although dont expect help from all your bridesmaids – I only had 2 out of 5 willing to help and only 1 actually stepped up!
Post # 4
if you don’t want her to be a BM don’t ask her. if she wants to help, let her help. maybe you will become closer through this process and you can honor/thank her in a different way at the wedding.
Post # 5
@MrsBaldEagle: I had that same problem previously. I had 3 bridesmaids all willing to “help” their idea of help happened to be tell me all my ideas sucked and how their ideas were so much better.
I really wanted to include her cause she was asking all about the bridesmaids dresses and everything. She gave me the names of some awesome vendors and I feel bad asking her for all this help when she is not even included in the wedding. I mean we are family and I have all of my family members in the wedding except for her.
Post # 6
@thefuturemrsD: If you were previously on the fence and you want to have her as a bridesmaid, then ask her. It seems like she’s willing to be a help to you, and it could be a great opportunity for you two to get closer.