Post # 1
Alright, so I was invited to a Sunday afternoon wedding reception (they are getting married this weekend in front of family only) for a friend from high school in a couple of weeks. Problem is that I have already RSVPed ‘yes’ to my cousin’s wedding the night before. My friend’s wedding is over 2 hours away. Should I go?
My friend and her FI made the trip up for my wedding last year. I want to go, but I think it’ll just be too much to try and attend both wedding receptions.
Post # 3
@coffeegal85: What time in the morning would you have to leave to get to the friend’s reception on Sunday?
I say get your Red Bulls ready and go for it! Take Monday off work to rest up from all the fun
Post # 4
@coffeegal85: This happened to me a few summers ago. A friend and a family wedding too. I went to both! It just meant not drinking a lot at the evening wedding, and leaving before midnight. It is definitely doable.
It was a fun long weekend.
Post # 5
I would go to both. A wedding is a once in a lifetime event. Not trying to say that you should attend ALL weddings but both weddings sound important for you to attend.
Post # 6
Etiquette Snob here… lol
Ok I am going to GUESS you posted this on the Etiquette Board because of any / all of the following:
1- It is a Sunday Reception (not the usual time for a Wedding Reception)
2- You were invited to the Reception Only and not the Wedding
3- You have another event the same Weekend
I’d go the the Sunday Reception if it fit my schedule / plans. Only you can determine that.
From an Etiquette perspective the Happy Couple have done nothing wrong… Small intimate family weddings are perfectly acceptable. The fact they’ve chosen to follow that by a Celebration with Friends & Family and invite you is fabulous… so go if you wish.
Hope this helps,
Post # 7
I don’t really see the big obstacle in getting to an afternoon reception that’s two hours away the next day, but I also don’t know how wild you like to get at parties. If I was in your shoes, I would just not drink and party until past 1 am at your cousin’s wedding. Seems to me like if your cousin’s wedding is local and your friend’s reception is in the afternoon, you could head home around midnight and still get a full night of sleep before leaving the next day. I wouldn’t feel good about declining to celebrate my friend’s marriage just because I wanted to sleep in and be lazy that day.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I would. It’ll mean a lot to your friend, even though she’ll be busy.
Maybe it’s cause I live in one of the giant square states, but a 2 hour drive is pssshaw nothing.
Post # 9
Hmm I think it depends how close you are and how badly you want to go. That’s basically your entire wedding spent at/traveling to these events. I think you have a reasonable excuse to not go the Sunday one, especially since it’s a 4 hour round trip on a Sunday. How bad would you feel if you missed it?
Post # 10
If I do go, I’ll have 3 weddings in 1 week. That is alot of weddings. The wedding the weekend before is out of town (like 4 hours away, so it’ll be an overnight trip), so I will be all over the state in a matter of a few days. That’s why I guess I am considering not going.
I would obviously send a gift and heartfelt card, if I decide not to go.
Post # 11
I would go to both. But I also tend to try and do too much, burn myself out and pay for it the next day. However, you will feel good you were there for your friend. If it was a birthday party or something like that, I’d say skip it….but a wedding reception is a little more special.
Post # 12
@Pinkmoon: We were close in high school, but have since drifted ways. I see her maybe once every couple of years. My other friends from high school, who were invited, are not attending, so DH and I would only know each other.
I guess I’m just blah about it, because I always do “the right thing,” but none of my other friends (the invited ones) make the effort. Makes me one tired girl trying to please everyone, ya know what I mean?
Post # 13
I’d go….I’ve gone to a Friday night wedding and a Saturday afternoon wedding in one weekend before and I lived.
Didn’t you say this girl went to your wedding. I think that “I may be tired” is a lame excuse not to attend a friend’s wedding.
Post # 14
I would go, but only because I REALLY like weddings! But I wouldn’t feel obligated if I were you!