Post # 1
Hi Bee’s –
I would really like an outside opinion on this situation I am in. My nephew is battling a colon disease right now, and I have sent emails, texts, and facebook posts asking for prayers and donations to help with his medical treatment.
I have heard from SO many people that I haven’t talked to in years. I have a very close knit family, so when one of us is down we all rally around and help each other.
I haven’t heard anything my FMIL. She normally responds to any of my emails in less than an hour. I sent this out yesterday.
She called my FI last night to check in since they are coming to visit this weekend. My FI asked her if she knew about my nephew and she said, she saw the email but hadn’t had a chance to open it yet.
I honestly feel hurt by this. Do I think it was intentional? No. But that doesn’t make it hurt my feelings any less. In my heart I know that she loves her family, but that’s just it, she doesn’t extend her love to anyone outside of their nuclear family.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I just tell her how I feel when I see her this weekend? I don’t really won’t an apology I just want her to know that I am hurt by this.
Thanks for reading.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t say anything to put her on the spot. Give her a chance to offer her support in person. Maybe she was waiting to say something until she sees you?
Post # 4
I wouldn’t take it personally. She may not feel comfortable giving money or perhaps she may want to talk to you in person.
Post # 5
@Meant2Bee: She says she hasn’t had a chance to look at it yet, and I think you have to accept that. Or risk calling her a liar and deal with the follow up from that.
Post # 6
Wow, you ladies were all right. My FMIL just called my phone to apologize for not calling sooner. That really put my mind and heart at ease. Thanks for allowing me to vent!
Post # 7
@Meant2Bee: Oh good, I’m glad she cleared that up! Also, I’m sending thoughts & well-wishes to your nephew 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@Meant2Bee: I’d give her a chance to see you in person. However, I wouldn’t be expecting money, nor would I be offended if she didn’t give money. If I were in her shoes, I wouldn’t give money, either.
Edit: I just saw your edit. Regardless, my point still stands. But I’m glad she called you!