Post # 1
So last night I was talking to one of my BMs who is my best friend from growing up all the way through high school, we still talk all the time! My wedding is more than a year away but I have been engaged for a year now so we are starting to get excited about planning and stuff!
She told me that she is planning on driving to the venue for the wedding, which is about 90 minutes away from her house. In the conversation that seemed fine but now that I think about it, that means she’ll leave the rehearsal dinner the night before maybe around 9, get home at 10:30, and then next morning need to leave at 8am to be here in time to get ready for the wedding.
I don’t know if she has thought about this. If you were a BM would you be comfortable- would you have enough time to sleep the night before? She doesn’t drink so I am not worried about her drinking and driving. I am just wondering if I should bring this up in conversation and make sure she has thought about it.
Post # 3
I think it’s her choice and I think it will be fine.
Post # 4
That seems pretty reasonable to me. Getting home at 10:30 and leaving at 8 seems like plenty of time. If that’s what she wants to do I wouldn’t be worried!
Post # 6
It’s her choice — and it’s also a year away. Things change, and she may decide to stay overnight closer. Don’t stress about these teeny tiny details this far out!
Post # 7
Thanks bees! Always the voice of sanity 🙂
Post # 8
@nawella: Hm, I see what you mean. If she’s really tired from all the activity, the drive home and back the next morning could be a bit much. I think it couldn’t hurt to say something like, “Hey, with all the activity of the wedding, do you think you’ll be able to get enough sleep and time to yourself between the rehearsal and the wedding?” If she’s more of an introvert, the “time by yourself” thing could be especially important for her. It can’t hurt to bring it up. At least then she’ll have all the information before deciding what to do.
Post # 9
@nawella: It’s not a bad drive, I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 10
@crescentloon23: That’s a good idea! I think if I bring it up closer to the event but before the room block is released then she might think pretty seriously about it. Thanks!
Post # 11
FI gave himself 90 minutes to get to his best friend’s June wedding in Brooklyn.Never did it occur to him to sleep there. He left here by 8:30 a.m.
Post # 12
Let her worry about it. She’ll know what’s best for her. And anything you can not worry about is good!